ladymiz 8 Posted July 12, 2016 Ugghh i need advice and to vent I have worked for the same company for the last 10 years I have only worked under this manager for five years I have always put my office and the other co-workers before myself now that my surgery is booked and she happens to have vacation she is giving me hell she is making me feel bad thinking that I purposely planned my surgery knowing she was out what should I do Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OutsideMatchInside 10,166 Posted July 12, 2016 Document it and tell HR if you have to. Hostile work environment. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FrankyG 1,450 Posted July 12, 2016 If your boss is seriously harassing you, I'd suggest you ask her to please stop and politely but firmly tell her that it was not planned, and that it was your surgeon's call as to when he/she could fit you onto their schedule. And that you'll make sure to leave careful instructions and get all projects and work set up for your coworkers as well as possible before you're out for surgery. Don't get angry, don't try to justify or argue or feel like you need to explain things further than that and don't feel it necessary to tell them what the surgery is for (and if asked "it's a private matter, and I don't feel comfortable discussing my health issues. Thanks for understanding.") If your boss continues to harass you, then I might consider going to HR and tell them that your boss is doing this and ask them to please calm her down. They need to step in if she is being seriously hostile. But you stay calm and keep repeating "I'm so sorry that it fell during the same time as your vacation, but I really need to get this done and this was when my surgeon could get me on their schedule. I'll do my absolute best to make sure my work and all projects are in great shape so there should be no problems while I'm out." Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladymiz 8 Posted July 12, 2016 If your boss is seriously harassing you, I'd suggest you ask her to please stop and politely but firmly tell her that it was not planned, and that it was your surgeon's call as to when he/she could fit you onto their schedule. And that you'll make sure to leave careful instructions and get all projects and work set up for your coworkers as well as possible before you're out for surgery. Don't get angry, don't try to justify or argue or feel like you need to explain things further than that and don't feel it necessary to tell them what the surgery is for (and if asked "it's a private matter, and I don't feel comfortable discussing my health issues. Thanks for understanding.") If your boss continues to harass you, then I might consider going to HR and tell them that your boss is doing this and ask them to please calm her down. They need to step in if she is being seriously hostile. But you stay calm and keep repeating "I'm so sorry that it fell during the same time as your vacation, but I really need to get this done and this was when my surgeon could get me on their schedule. I'll do my absolute best to make sure my work and all projects are in great shape so there should be no problems while I'm out." Thank you so very much for the advice Document it and tell HR if you have to. Hostile work environment. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shellyd88 463 Posted July 12, 2016 I'd like to add don't allow anyone to bully you if you have always put your office as a priority as you said then this person will feel entitled to make you feel bad or as if you've done something wrong so they can have what they want and if it works so much the better in their favor u need to put yourself first for once and do what you need instead what of what is convenient for everyone else good luck Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BCel 9 Posted July 12, 2016 Your health is 100% more important then a vacation. As long as you've communicated it youve done your part. Dont allow her to make you angry. You've been waiting and working for this. When I had my sleeve I applied for fmla and short term disability. I applied through UNUM the company our HR uses and everything worked out for me to leave and my supervisor couldnt say anything (he was supportive and worked with me) but good luck with your surgery and stay focused on the positive, your getting your life back! Sent from my LG-D415 using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Inner Surfer Girl 12,015 Posted July 12, 2016 Ugghh i need advice and to vent I have worked for the same company for the last 10 years I have only worked under this manager for five years I have always put my office and the other co-workers before myself now that my surgery is booked and she happens to have vacation she is giving me hell she is making me feel bad thinking that I purposely planned my surgery knowing she was out what should I do Hey, at least she is planning to take a vacation! My last manager would never take a vacation, sick day, or mental health day. He was a couple of years younger than me. He is dead. Both your health and her vacation are important. If your business can't accommodate both then it sounds like you are seriously understaffed --- unfortunately, that seems to be the norm these days. Frankly, I wouldn't change your plans. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
endlessquest 20 Posted July 12, 2016 Just hand your manager your doors note stating your having sugary on such and such date and you'll follow up on such and such date...case closed. You owe no further explanation to your manager and it's illegal for them to ask. Sent from my SM-G900V using the BariatricPal App Just hand your manager your doctors note stating your having sugary on such and such date and you'll follow up on such and such date...case closed. You owe no further explanation to your manager and it's illegal for them to ask. Sent from my SM-G900V using the BariatricPal App Sent from my SM-G900V using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tholbert08 51 Posted July 12, 2016 You have gotten some fabulous advice here. I would concur but I would choose not to provide specifics of what is being done. None of their business. Sent from my SM-N920V using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LadyK44 263 Posted July 12, 2016 I would put in my leave and tell her to bite me. This is about health and wellness. Sent from my SM-G935P using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladymiz 8 Posted July 13, 2016 I would put in my leave and tell her to bite me. This is about health and wellness. Sent from my SM-G935P using the BariatricPal App That's what I did i think my next step is a lawyer Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
