I'ts a Secret

washinginwa · August 22, 2007

Do whatever you need to do. I was afraid to tell DH because I (we) were self-pay and it was soooo much money I felt so selfish. But, I got over that and thought whats co-pay on a heart attack or stoke. I then asked my whole family for support!! I'm glad I need.

Best Wishes, Connie

Essence36 · August 23, 2007

Hello. Everyone.

About 5 years ago when I stopped smoking. I gained so much weight. i tried everything. Nothing seemed to work. After gaining over 50 lbs . I had a baby putting on another 21 lbs. Family and friends try and spare my feelings by not telling me how big I've gotten. Well I finally came to the decision about getting banded. No one knows. I will tell my husband after I get it done. Because I know he would freak out the thought of a weight loss surgery. I told him that I'm getting a procedure done. I'm doing this for me. I'm 5"3in 248 lbs that is not cute. I'm only 35 yrs old.

I want to enjoy my children, my husband and my friends. I went to a bachalorette party I was so out of breath with just seconds on movements. I went with my daughter on a out door trip with her school I had to keep stopping the walking was killing me. I love having sex but with the weight gain, I'm limited to one position all others tire me out. I want my old back. Give me 9"s and 12"s not 18"s and 20"s. So I will keep my secret until its over. Oh god I hope nothing goes wrong. Sep 6 is my date.

Guys its no longer a secret, today I felt really bad about not discussing my surgery with my husband. He said he had and idea I was up to something . He said I had been getting so many eob from the insurance company and he knew I wasnt sick. He was relieved that it was the gastric bypass. Well I took him to meet my doctor. Believe it or not he wasnt angry. He did admit that he was a little hurt that I was planning something and out of all people I couldnt come to him. He said that he would have tried to talk me out of it, however if this surgery was that important to me than he would support it. I told him I was gonna tell him write after the surgery. I just didnt want him to stop me from doing it. He read all of the responses from u guys. Some he thought was funny but he did say he was glad that you didnt support my madness about keeping it a secret. He agreed not to discuss it with anybody.

Sincerly

Mrs and Mr Essence 36

Essence36 · August 23, 2007

thanks for your support , but i decided to tell him . look under its not a secret to find out what happen

Qvrfullmidwife · August 23, 2007

You would be OK with it if your husband hid something as important and life changing as this from you?

Sounds to me that if you cannot trust your husband with this information that maybe your marriage needs the attention first.

Hope you get all worked out.

Qvrfullmidwife · August 23, 2007

ah...just read your update...good!

Marimaru · August 23, 2007

Essence, I'm glad you told him, but I'm really glad that he took it so well and is being so supportive. It's always a slap in the face to have a fear like that, and then to have it come true, you know?

Are you getting anxious for your date? It's only a couple weeks off now!

Essence36 · August 23, 2007

Essence, I'm glad you told him, but I'm really glad that he took it so well and is being so supportive. It's always a slap in the face to have a fear like that, and then to have it come true, you know?
Are you getting anxious for your date? It's only a couple weeks off now!

i am very nervous

Essence36 · August 24, 2007

I'm not really nervous anymore, Now that my husband knows. I'm excited I met with shrink today. Thats part of my process

WASaBubbleButt · August 24, 2007

I'm not really nervous anymore, Now that my husband knows. I'm excited I met with shrink today. Thats part of my process

Good, I'm glad. Sometimes people just need a little time to work things out. Getting a band means a lot of head work. You have to come to the realization that you can't do it by yourself anymore. Then you have to decide how to proceed. Then you have to admit and accept it means surgery. None of it is easy.

A little time means everything in the world.

You should be excited, you have a whole new world ahead of you. A new life, a new way of doing things, a thinner and healthier person. It's all good!