Relationship Issues

[jescoto86 5]

Hi everyone. I had my surgery in Feb and I'm loving the way I look. I'm very confident.. Maybe too confident. I've been with my gf for 2 years, but my eyes have started wandering. I don't want to cheat and I really love her, but it's hard to turn away the attention I'm getting. I've never had it before. There is a girl specifically I can't turn away from. She's the cutest thing, and way out of my league. I've never had such an opportunity. Has anyone else had this issue or similar? Of course, my gf is now super jealous because she sees the attention I get when we go out. I added a picture just to show the difference it's made this far.

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[jessjames 234]

Firstly, you look great.. But secondly, remember who's been there when you were bigger and loved you regardless. Remember who helped you through surgery and recovery.. And has put up with this process and held your hand every step of the way. New attention is good, but remember who was there and what that means.

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[Cervidae 2,389]

I totally understand new confidence and an absolute love of the new attention. Here are my thoughts about this situation:

- if you're this close to straying, maybe your current girlfriend is not the best match for you.

- would this new girl you like have been interested in you however many pounds ago? Would she have given you a second look before? Is that something that would bother you?

- the attention you're getting now is utterly superficial. the attention your girlfriend gave(gives) you is not.

the bottom line is that if you are able to seriously lust after someone who is not your so and are even contemplating leaving her for greener pastures, you're really not doing you or her any favors by continuing this way. You're just limiting yourself and you're making her watch as you slowly slip away from her, who loved you before you dropped weight, to other people who are only interested in you now that you're more conventionally attractive.

Good luck to you. These are the issues no doctor ever mentions, and no one can really help us with after major weight loss. We have to recreate entire new self-images and identities. Just make sure you're keeping a little perspective while that's happening.

[melbell2222 244]

Don't risk it unless you want to lose all.. The trust won't be there when you go with the other girl. And she might not want anything but a fling which is not worth losing a love

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[lindaras22 22]

Amen

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