Deehovey 48 Posted July 4, 2016 My boyfriend of 4 years is thin and athletic and has been all of his life. He was so supportive when I was trying to lose weight through diet and exercise last year, but I fell of the wagon and gained it all back. He is always trying to coax me into something active whether it is a walk or a bike ride, camping or canoeing, etc. At 315 pounds I feel like I'm disappointing him when I can't do these things. He never says that but I can't help but think it. I've finally decided that surgery is my last option. A coworker mentioned our insurance pays it. So, I've been researching for a couple of weeks. (Also tried to get surgery 12 years ago and my insurance at the time denied it.) But I was super worried that my althetic significant other would be disappointed in me and not be supportive. I finally brought it up last night. He was super supportive! He did mention that any surgery is risky, but he wants me to be happy and healthy. I told him I want nothing more than to go do these fun things with him and for them to actually be fun for me too! We talked about what that would mean about having food and alcohol in the house and he's willing to help as much as he can. I feel such a relief. It's going to be at least 6 months before surgery because I need to change to a lower deductible health insurance plan. But I'm starting the process now so I can hopefully get it done in January. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ShelterDog64 2,364 Posted July 4, 2016 My boyfriend of 4 years is thin and athletic and has been all of his life. He was so supportive when I was trying to lose weight through diet and exercise last year, but I fell of the wagon and gained it all back. He is always trying to coax me into something active whether it is a walk or a bike ride, camping or canoeing, etc. At 315 pounds I feel like I'm disappointing him when I can't do these things. He never says that but I can't help but think it. I've finally decided that surgery is my last option. A coworker mentioned our insurance pays it. So, I've been researching for a couple of weeks. (Also tried to get surgery 12 years ago and my insurance at the time denied it.) But I was super worried that my althetic significant other would be disappointed in me and not be supportive. I finally brought it up last night. He was super supportive! He did mention that any surgery is risky, but he wants me to be happy and healthy. I told him I want nothing more than to go do these fun things with him and for them to actually be fun for me too! We talked about what that would mean about having food and alcohol in the house and he's willing to help as much as he can. I feel such a relief. It's going to be at least 6 months before surgery because I need to change to a lower deductible health insurance plan. But I'm starting the process now so I can hopefully get it done in January. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G935A using the BariatricPal App This sounds very much like my experience with my husband. I'm 13 days post-op and he couldn't be a better cheerleader for me. Good luck to you! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
veramunoz 12 Posted July 5, 2016 Very similar to my hubby I am 6 days post op and he has been there at my bed and call embrace your man Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G900A using the BariatricPal App Share this post Link to post Share on other sites