being fat is this whole stereotype

[swimmer0302 1]

IM only 20 and im a pretty tough girl i dont cry unless you call me one name and of course it has to be FAT ha ive dealt with this my whole life but not from the kids at school i had tons of friends who loved me for me but of all people to cut me down and make me want to die would be my MOTHER... so low self esteem is apart of being my friend lol... just thought i would say i hate people who have to always make a fat joke or always have to cut me down im one of the nicest girls and im funny but people just cant seem to stop... hmmmm the world is a very cruel place im just hoping with the band i will show my mother that i can change

[green 6]

Swimmer, your mother sounds unsupportive. A lot of us who post here have had similar experiences with their own families. Congratulations on getting the band.

[swimmer0302 1]

Thanks and she is she is tiny so she doesnt know how it feels to be bigger haaaaaa but its all good NOW

[Wheetsin 714]

On the flip side...

To your first, I would question anyone who only ordered a side salad. I would be concerned that they didn't feel well, or maybe needed to borrow money but didn't want to ask, or didn't like the restaurant we had gone to. It matters not if they're fat, thin, or anything in between. I think sometimes we expect certain reactions, and find them even when they aren't there.

To your second, IMO, because it's an easily identifiable physical characterisitc. Especially if being stated by two non-fat people. I am fat, and I have red curly hair. Both are physical traits, and for me, equally likely to narrow down a group of people to just me. Why would "the one who's overweight?" bother you more than "the shorter one" or "the black one"? People tend to go for the characteristic that's most obvious and least like themselves (unless it's exactly like themselves, because then they can make an easy comparison statement such as, "like mine but a little shorter" or "about this same color").

As to the third, my firm belief is because they can.