Single and Looking!

[OKCPirate 5,323]

@@LEILE - "People are more similar than not. A lot of emotions come up after surgery. For me, it was a lot of anger. I wanted to leave my partner of 6 years--he was so annoying ALL OF A SUDDEN. I still have a long ways to go on this journey--I am almost 6 months out, but I am not going to invite any life changing newness into my life and I am not going to discard anything important from my life for the next at least 6 months. I really struggle with food, even still. food for me, has been my constant companion for over 25 years and putting that down makes me want to pick up something else. Whenever people on this site talk about passing their mental health inspection--because they DON'T have an eating disorder, hence they could get the surgery--I just shake my head. No one I have ever met, gets to be super obese because they have a genetics problem and are otherwise the picture of perfect mental health."

I was on an emotional roller coaster after the first month for nearly 6 months. In retrospect it is funny, but I'm glad I didn't make any life changing decisions. I fell in love, hated them soon after, jumped in bed too quick et.al. The "hormone dump" that goes along with rapid weight loss affects everyone differently. This is not always a reflection of the state of someone's mental health IMHO. Very few people here are in the "super obese" category. Most are strugglers. We dieted, went up and down for a wide variety of reasons, and screwed our damn metabolism up. Now very few know about this aspect of dieting, and in 30 years they will be teaching this in school, but right now it is too new. I am sorry but I am convinced the result of yo-yo dieting is a screwed up set-point for weight that will always result in a return to the high weight unless you go to extreme Dr. Dean Ornish diet program.

[KindaFamiliar 3,867]

I have no doubt you will make the right call, what ever it is. Your call Doc

I appreciate the level of confidence you have in me...

No matter how unfounded it may be...

Ha! Yes, though there is what's behind door number 3 to consider as well . . .

Don't you tease me...

There's a third option??

Oh the humanity...

Won't somebody PLEASE think of the children...

[ridgerunner 115]

Now that was quite nice to call someone a creature. So let me guess you loss a few pounds yourself and feeling your cheerios enough to call people names huh? b***h have a seat and as far as calling the responders trolls including myself, I simply responded to what was in my timeline. Now channel that meek person, you know how you were before you lost your weight, and be nice. You think your picture is a such a sight to behold? Sorry old lady in the shoe IT'S NOT!!!!! Don't be so ugly to people geesh we're all in here for support and encouragement not to hide behind a screen tearing each other down you never know what someone is going through. Don't have your words be the reason someone takes their life

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Oh, what a delight, another troll!

My dear, I assure you I am not now nor have I ever been a "meek" person nor have I ever been someone who is going to allow someone to bully me, particularly someone so callow as to bleep out their own use of curse words. Come now, if you're going to use obscenties to try to hurt and demean someone, particularly a gender specifc one intended to degrade women, do it right, use ALL the letters!.

Neat trick you're trying to pull to make it appear that it is I and not you and your ill-natured ilk who are being ugly to people in this forum. But, tsk, tsk, @@4mybabies, people aren't quite that dumb, we can all read the entire thread for ourselves, but nice try!

I know that you and your shrill friends think that if you just yell really loud and call people names and insult people that they will stop standing up to you, but it's simply not going to work with me. What you don't know is that a number of people on this site have emailed me privately over the past few days. They are all sick and tired of the mean girl posse running roughshod over them when they are here looking for a support community. So, I speak for myself as well as for them when I say: avast, mean girls, your days of terrorizing us are numbered!

What she said

[Alex Brecher 10,502]

Wow, I think the summer heat is getting under the skin of our membership.

I don't care how many posts you have...if you call someone a name, you will be banned. If you have an issue with a post, REPORT IT. I'm going to stop posting warnings. I've pretty much had it with the name calling and bullying. It has no place on BariatricPal.

[CHM 1,009]

I can't decide whether I want to be a Flaming Forum Troll or a Forum Overlord...

Looks like I've got a decision to make...

Forum Overlord. It sounds WAY more powerful and intimidating.

Now get out of the Single and Looking thread...you are neither!

[Christinamo7 4,042]

Well, i guess it is a forum, so most people feel the need to respond or may have been through a similar situation so they offer advice.

If a person doesn't want a response or expects a specific type of response and get upset when it doesn't match their expectations, then why would they need post? It seems counterproductive to me.

I agree with you, people shouldn't get chastised for speaking up, but it goes the other way too... there is no need to chastise people for replying either.

Yes. This. !!!!

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[KindaFamiliar 3,867]

[quote name="CHM"

Now get out of the Single and Looking thread...you are neither!

Oh sh*t..

StrawGirl has caught me!!!

[OKCPirate 5,323]

[quote name="CHM"

Now get out of the Single and Looking thread...you are neither!

Oh sh*t..

StrawGirl has caught me!!!

Busted. Well sorry overlord

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

How in the world did I miss this thread?

LOL!

[Babbs 14,680]

The OP sounds delightful. I'm sure there's a line of people just waiting to date them with that sparkling personality.

[LipstickLady 25,682]

I love this sh*t...

Yup, and I'm only on page 1!

[LipstickLady 25,682]

Well that got ugly fast.

Signed,

Not single and SO happy to be not looking.

[LipstickLady 25,682]

@@Alex Brecher

It wasn't me!!!!! I didn't do it!!!!

@@Alex Brecher

It wasn't me!!!!! I didn't do it!!!!

[LipstickLady 25,682]

@@Alex Brecher

It wasn't me!!!!! I didn't do it!!!!

[CHM 1,009]

@@Alex Brecher

It wasn't me!!!!! I didn't do it!!!!

LMAO! I was going to say that...

The drama isn't centered around YOU for once!