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I hope this doesn't sound too off the wall. I really want the surgery and am 4 months into my 6 months supervised diet. I recently started thinking "oh my lord, I will really no longer have a stomach (or most of it will be gone), they will be cutting out my stomach!"

Has anyone ever sort of grieved over the loss of their stomach? I hope I don't come off sounding like some weirdo...

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Nope, no grieving at all.

I still have a stomach. It's the original, just streamlined and working correctly now. They fixed it by cutting it down as far as I'm concerned. :D

I really didn't experience any sense of loss or even doubts that I'd made a bad decision. Mostly worried that it might not work for me for some reason, but it has been doing beautifully so far. :)

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I think your feelings are normal. especially pre surgery.

once you get through the first month and there are so many positives, I think you'll be all about your new stomach.

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I hope this doesn't sound too off the wall. I really want the surgery and am 4 months into my 6 months supervised diet. I recently started thinking "oh my lord, I will really no longer have a stomach (or most of it will be gone), they will be cutting out my stomach!"

Has anyone ever sort of grieved over the loss of their stomach? I hope I don't come off sounding like some weirdo...

I'm sure you are not the first but this thought never came to mind to me. I may mourn the loss of my boobs at some point! ????

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I understand.

You will no longer have the perfect body that the Lord gave you when he put you here. A little piece of "you" will be------where? "Medical waste".

However I think of it as a "diseased" organ that needed to have an "abscess" removed before it killed me.

I also felt that way about my uterus, appendix, and gallbladder. All gone due to some pustulating infection.

When you think of a disease removed--allowing you to lead a more healthy life, I hope having part of your stomach removed won't be quite to traumatic.

No. I don't think you're a weirdo, because that would make me one too-----well wait!!! Maybe?-----nope, we both are just fine. :)

Hoping you have a joyful journey.

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I honestly like it better. 3 bites = christmas dinner level full. 3-4 times a day. 0.o everything is a feast now.

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THank you so much! Your replies really helped. RoscoColetrain, I love that thought!

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I hope this doesn't sound too off the wall. I really want the surgery and am 4 months into my 6 months supervised diet. I recently started thinking "oh my lord, I will really no longer have a stomach (or most of it will be gone), they will be cutting out my stomach!"

Has anyone ever sort of grieved over the loss of their stomach? I hope I don't come off sounding like some weirdo...

I kind of thought the same thing but outer stomach...I thought..."lord I won't have a tummy anymore..."perhaps we get comfortable with out parts and the thought of things being different...the unknown...it's scary!

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Yes, I felt it. When I got within days of my surgery I started thinking that they are removing most of my stomach. And first day post op I was thinking about it as well. But what's done is done. 3rd day post op and humming along.

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Your feelings are normal. Trust me when I say this, you will be so happy you did this and when you're able to eat more you're going to wish it was smaller again.

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Not one bit! It wasn't working right........When I was planning my surgery my husband needed to lose weight too.....but what he said about having surgery was "I ain't having nothin' cut out that ain't rotten"....haha...........But to me, mine was rotten.

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