Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Feel like I'm walking around with the best secret ever!



Recommended Posts

Hey, I was wondering if anyone else feels like this?? I live in Australia and until a couple of months ago I have no fricking idea what bariatric surgery was!!

I'm pre-op, having my surgery in 4 days (excited and nervous) and I feel like I'm walking around with this giant, awesome secret. Even though I would never do this, cause it's rude. But every time I see someone who's obese or overweight I want to tell them about it and I keep thinking about a number of people I know who have dropped a fuckload of weight in the last couple of years and have maintained it! Do they know about this secret???

Does or did anyone else feel this way??? Or am I just a weirdo??

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thanks lol

Did you seriously not feel this way at all??

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Yeah, I did @@Jobey

Still do to some degree...

I see big people - not people who are just 'fat', but genuinely 'life-threateningly obese' people and wonder why they don't do something...

But then I remember that, not so long ago, I was one of these people...

And while all the support and 'help' was offered, it had to be ME who decided when it was time...

I just assume that those who want to change will do so when they're ready...

Pushing and coaxing me was never gonna help...

So I'd never want anyone else to feel I was doing the same to them..

Enjoy your little secret...

I hope that as the process progresses, you continue to remian positive and at the same mental stage you're at know...

It's definitely an exciting time...

And it really does get even better!!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Well I'm personally keeping it a secret myself. When asked how I lost 50 pounds in the last 2 months, I happily tell them ... Hypnosis and acupuncture. No shit.

Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

isn't it great?

I look forward to seeing your progress.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Jobey, so when people ask you about how you lost all your weight, are you going to share that WLS was a part of the equation?

I think I want to be up front with people, whether they are thin or not, to help normalize the idea of WLS. I think I would have gotten here a lot sooner if the people who surrounded me didn't consider it a "cop out" ..... Ugh, makes me mad.

Sent from my iPad using the BariatricPal App

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I have told almost all of my immediate family and friends but that's because I had some other circumstances surrounding my decision and also a health problem which meant that if I kept putting on weight at the rate that I did it literally would have killed me. The only people I haven't been up front with are my work colleagues, other than 2 who I'm really close to.

I think that I'll decide whether to be honest or not on a case by case basis. However if any of my friends that don't know ask me and they're overweight I'm going to be honest, so they too know that starving yourself and dieting forever isn't their only option.

People who think this is a cop out obviously have no freaking idea!! This is a drastic, drastic life style change and not an easy one!!

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Bashbee91

      Hey guys new to the process looking forward to this new life. 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Bugg

      Hi everyone! I’m brand new here. I just went through all my pre-op requirements per my insurance company and now everything has been submitted and I’m just waiting for final approval and my surgery date. I’ve been doing research, watching YouTube videos, TikTok’s, ect.. trying to prepare my mind and what to expect so I’ll be ready for the surgery. I was so sure and so set and so ready and excited. However, now that I’ve done everything & it’s almost here, I am sooooooo scared! I know why I want it bc I’ve tried everything and I just don’t feel like I can lose weight by myself. I’m tired of being overweight my entire life. I’m miserable, but I keep psyching myself out afraid of GERD bc I know how that can be and I don’t want to have to get a bypass after already gaining the courage to even get VSG. I’m scared of complications like I’mgoing to regret doing it and be depressed that I didn’t just be more disciplined and try again to lose the weight on my own even sitting here typing this knowing in my mind i just can’t and don’t possess the discipline. I’m also afraid I won’t be able to handle the restrictions of the sleeve. What do I eat? I don’t know how to eat healthy really and don’t enjoy healthy food. I don’t know how to do this! I feel so defeated!Someone tell me they felt anything similar to this or am I not ready? I thought I was. I am so tired of being sick and tired and so tired of myself and so tired of being stuck and stuck in this body and somebody different on the outside from what I feel inside. I just want to ball up and cry.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • buildabetteranna

      over 20 lbs down since4 the pre surgery diet and surgery on the 14th
      · 1 reply
      1. Selina333

        Yay!! Congrats. I know how good that feels. 🤩

    • Jenopolis

      Had a sleeve in 2017, lost over 100 pounds. Had a DS surgery this year (2025) for more sustainable weight loss. 🤞
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • buildabetteranna

      The 14th was my day. I am home and recovery is going pretty smooth. They even let me walk out of the hospital. Picture of me in recovery curtesy of my boyfriend lol. 

      · 3 replies
      1. DaisyChainOz

        Glad it went well!! Wishing you a speedy recovery and wonderful success!! 🤗

      2. buildabetteranna

        Thank you ❤️

      3. Selina333

        Neat you have a pic of this day! I was sooo happy to get my surgery. It was well worth it! And I'm not even near my goal. I had surgery Dec. 2!

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×