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all of a sudden, guys from my school days



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Are (is?) starting to comment on the way I look and how I look good "now". Yet they called me ugly in middle and high school and now try to tell me they "had the biggest crush on me". Please.

Like, do they really think just because I lost some weight I am going to forget about all the mean things they said?

I don't believe in that "boys only pick on and hit girls because they like them" crap, I never have and if it's true then why the hell they still doing it in HIGH SCHOOL?

There's about three guys, so far, who've told me they always liked me and always wanted to date me and how cute I was but I just role my eyes and try not to gage.

A part of me sort of likes the attention but then I remember they just want sex and I go back to rolling my eyes.

Has this happened to anyone else, man or woman, etc?

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They sound like losers to me. They sound like desperate soles and noticed you, so they're clinging to a lie to get what they want.

I've never had this issue but I also have my profile on FB as private and don't have exes at friends. I'm too old for wasted drama anyways, you sound reasonably young so this happening doesn't surprise me.

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They sound like losers to me. They sound like desperate soles and noticed you, so they're clinging to a lie to get what they want.

I've never had this issue but I also have my profile on FB as private and don't have exes at friends. I'm too old for wasted drama anyways, you sound reasonably young so this happening doesn't surprise me.

My fb is on private but I just added them because I assumed they just wanted to be friends on fb and not talk to me or w/e but then they send those messages and I just gag. I never dated any of them, so they're not exes. I honestly don't have time for it myself, it just makes me sick and has sort of been happening since 10th grade.

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I haven't been back at my high school since I graduated. But I may go to my 50th class reunion this year.

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I haven't been back at my high school since I graduated. But I may go to my 50th class reunion this year.

If you do, please tell me how people reply to your losing weight. I haven't been in high school in four years.

living my life like it's healthy

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I say enjoy the attention and don't feel guilty about it. As you are keenly aware, physical/sexual attractiveness is often times the first thing a guy notices and can even trump emotional connection for the duration of a relationship. If you had no real emotional connection to any of the guys reaching out, then you are certainly smart to ignore their advances.

Btw, how YOU doing? ;)

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I say enjoy the attention and don't feel guilty about it. As you are keenly aware, physical/sexual attractiveness is often times the first thing a guy notices and can even trump emotional connection for the duration of a relationship. If you had no real emotional connection to any of the guys reaching out, then you are certainly smart to ignore their advances.

Btw, how YOU doing? ;)

LOL "how you doing". Ahh yeah you're right but these guys just annoy me to no end. I pretty much just blocked all of them.

living my life like it's healthy

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