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Next month, will make 1 year post-op! I can't believe I made it this far. I'm one of the most stubborn people I know and to actually believe that I changed my eating habits, exercise habits, and even went along with the surgery amazes me! I remember laying on the operating table before my surgeon came in, I kept saying to myself... "Any minute, I'm gonna get up and get the f*** outta here!" Then they turned the anesthesia on and I could no longer escape :D

Anyway... It took me a while to tell anyone. The only people that know are my sister, brother, mom - of course, two best friends, and 1 cousin. I have a huge family so to not tell them my secret is a big thing.

I met my boyfriend November 2015. 5 months after my surgery. We've now been together since Feb and are serious. I just don't know how to tell him I was sleeved. He has no problem with bigger women. One of his exes was even larger than my highest so I don't know why I'm so embarrassed to tell him I got the sleeve. He's seen my weight loss and is proud of me but what if he's not as proud when he figures out I had surgery to help me?

I just don't know how to do it. When did you guys tell your significant others?

I've attached a before and after below btw :)

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Others will disagree but you need to tell him! It'll always be on your mind and he'll find out by accident and wonder why you never told him! If he's as serious about you - I can't imagine he will give a damn how you got healthy!

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Honesty is always best. He should still be proud of you. You DID do this on your own. The sleeve is a tool, but the decision to lose weight, to be your best self, to be healthy, to commit to new lifestyle changes--that's all you. Be proud. Be open, because it helps you and others to know that the sleeve is a helpful tool, but everything is is YOU. Congrats on losing. You look terrific.

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