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[msfrench68 3]

Ok , here is my delima my husband is very insecure and is already complaining about me losing weight before I've even had surgery. Has anyone else had this problem and how did you cope? Worried it may compromise my journey!

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[Lenoreholden 14]

Honey let nothing are no one come between your journey. Let your husband know u are doing this to save your life.This is your life and you the one has to live it. Take care i hope for the best for you

[Christinamo7 4,042]

hopefully it will be as easy as reassuring him that you are married to him no matter what your weight is. you may need couples counseling to deal with any unhealthy issues lurking below the surface,

I suppose I might tell him, "do you think I'm only married to you because I am fat and have no other options? no. I chose you and will continue to choose you".

I am almost at the weight I was when I married my husband. He is thrilled and delighted with my new health, energy and shape. but I worry what will happen as I move toward a normal BMI, as he has never dated girls who were not a little voluptuous. but, we will deal with it if he finds me less attractive. We dealt with it when I was heavier than he liked too. We've dealt with far bigger monsters than that. He was scared to death he was going to loose me to a stroke a couple of years ago and my health is just too important.

[Read2016 658]

Just curious you say he is already insecure and you haven't even had surgery... What's causing him to be insecure now?... Sounds like this is something going on with him and maybe the way he views/interacts with life.

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[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

Have you considered couples counseling? Therapy?

Have you been including him on things like your nutrition classes, appointments?

[msfrench68 3]

Just curious you say he is already insecure and you haven't even had surgery... What's causing him to be insecure now?... Sounds like this is something going on with him and maybe the way he views/interacts with life.

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He thinks I'm going to leave him after I loose weight.

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[msfrench68 3]

Have you considered couples counseling? Therapy?

Have you been including him on things like your nutrition classes, appointments?

Yes I have included him, but I do think counseling would be a good idea, thank you for your advice.

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Thank you all for your advice I really appreciate it, I have to be strong and I hope he will be a good supporter.

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[Read2016 658]

It's hard to change people's thinking... I don't think some men do well adapting to new situations... Good luck on your journey

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[msfrench68 3]

That's the truth lol, thank you.

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[jersey0601 99]

I had an amazing turnaround - 1 day

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[carlissa_RN 62]

Lol my husband has ALWAYS ENCOURAGED my to GAIN weight these past 23 years of marriage. He does NOT want me to get the surgery but not because he thinks I will leave him but because he is worried something will go wrong in surgery. Poor guy. He is so worried about me. I'm not!! I'm ready to start my new healthy life!!

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