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Hi. I got a lap band in August. I was 97kg at the time and now am only at 93kg. My band is sitting at 5mls, I've had to recently Re - educate myself on how to eat with the 20-20 rule and finally I am able to eat without being sick. But unfortunately the weight loss is nil. I feel like a failure. I realise my BMI is not as high as others and I was hoping to lose about 60lbs. I can tend to eat chocolate as I crave sweet things. I don't find its my main meals which are the problem but I can snack at times on things I shouldn't. Any advice or tips would be really welcome. ..feeling a but worthless.

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That is frustrating, but don't give up on yourself or the lap-band. Try to find a support group or go back to your surgeon's office and talk to the nutritionist. It's never too late to recommit to yourself.

I agree that the snacking may be causing some of your problems. Try to cut those out or replace them with healthy choices or just a bottle of flavored water. The flavor surprise will hopefully make it seem like a "treat".

YOU ARE WORTH IT!!

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@@Tamster79 I have not had WL yet but wanted to offer some advice. Avoid carbs - they will make you crave more carbs. Go with a high Protein low carb diet. Many Sleeve/Bypass people use this "Pouch Reset" diet and go back to basics. Maybe it will help you as well. My NUT recommends 5-6 very small meals (50% Protein/50% Produce). No Pasta, bread or rice. If candy/chocolate is a trigger food -/avoid them. You should definitely meet with a nutritionist. Good luck! post-287902-14635083300938_thumb.jpg

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@@Tamster79 I have not had WL yet but wanted to offer some advice. Avoid carbs - they will make you crave more carbs. Go with a high Protein low carb diet. Many Sleeve/Bypass people use this "Pouch Reset" diet and go back to basics. Maybe it will help you as well. My NUT recommends 5-6 very small meals (50% Protein/50% Produce). No Pasta, bread or rice. If candy/chocolate is a trigger food -/avoid them. You should definitely meet with a nutritionist. Good luck! attachicon.gif tapatalk_1461183821060.jpeg

Thank you. I'll definitely try high Protein low carb. I definitely need to avoid sugar I find for 2 weeks of the month I crave it so I'll try and avoid so I lose the cravings. Thanks.

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I was banded 2 years ago and even tho the band is great for some it wasn't for me. I had 10 mls. In a 14 band got sick at least once a day. As of the 28th I will have it removed and the sleeve performed. Good luck with yours and hope you become one of the fortunate ones.

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Hi. Well I was exactly like you except I didn't get all upset if I didn't get rid of weight. First year one pound one month the next maybe one and half the next one off. The main thing is it's a loss two years down the line like me. I'm nearly 4 stone less.

They key I found was get that band filled. Small amounts each time. And just relax about it. Stress causes problems with the band. It feels like everything is very tight.

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Hi. Well I was exactly like you except I didn't get all upset if I didn't get rid of weight. First year one pound one month the next maybe one and half the next one off. The main thing is it's a loss two years down the line like me. I'm nearly 4 stone less.

They key I found was get that band filled. Small amounts each time. And just relax about it. Stress causes problems with the band. It feels like everything is very tight.

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Thanks for your guidance, that gives me a bit of hope maybe my expectations a bit unreal

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My best advice, and I'm speaking from experience, is to cut out sugar and empty carbs. They will do nothing but slide through your band and stall your weight loss. I know how tempting they are, trust me!!! About a year after being banded, I started giving in to temptation. I would eat an entire bucket of ice cream in one evening. I could also put back a family sized package of Cookies.... All because I figured out my band wouldn't stop me. What a waste. I was sabotaging my own success. I lost 155 pounds and reached my goal weight in under 2 years, but I had about 4 months in there where I was eating poorly and didn't lose. I still struggle with saying "no" every day. You will thank yourself when you stop. The first couple of weeks might be hard, but your cravings will decrease a lot! Love yourself. Love your body. Remind yourself that you only have 1 body and you deserve to be happy and healthy. You can do this!

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