Afraid of failure

[saphfyre14 97]

I'm getting sleeved June 28th. I went to a support group tonight and was very concerned of failure. There were 3 people who have gained weight back. Any tips for me. I really really want to beat this weight. I hate to fail

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[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

I think we all go into this with doubts and fear of failure. It is what many of us have experienced with traditional dieting our whole lives. A little bit of that fear is probably healthy.

What has worked for me so far is to:

Decide to do everything my bariatric team asked me to do, even if I thought I couldn't and/or if I was afraid.

Follow my surgeon's instructions (pre- and post-op).

Track my food. I use MyFitnessPal.

Get at least 64 oz of Fluid every day.

Get at least 100 grams of Protein every day.

Avoid (for the most part) added sugars, starches, and fried foods.

Take my Vitamins and supplements as directed.

Exercise regularly.

Practice eating mindfully, taking small bites, and chewing thoroughly.

Participate in BariatricPal.

Attend support groups when I am able.

Weigh infrequently, especially in the first few months after surgery.

Avoid carbonation and caffeine.

Practice creativity.

Manage stress the best way I can.

Celebrate my successes: my favorite rewards are things like massages and mani/pedis.

And, most importantly, embrace the inevitable stalls.

Embrace the Stall

http://BariatricPal.com/index.php?/topic/351046-Embrace-the-Stall

[FocusOnMeNow 599]

Ok so this surgery is on your stomach. But it is what is in our heads and heart that got us to where we really needed this surgery to begin with. Don't want to gain it back "keep coming back" to bariatric pal, check out OVereaters Anonymous, see a therapist, read self help books starting with "emotional first aid". Start that process now pre-op. Most importantly do not reach your goal weight and EVER EVER EVER think "ok I'm done". It's like I told my friend... Six months post op I told her that I was going to OA and she said "but you're not an Overeater now" ...my reply "I'm not an active Overeater right now but I will always be an Overeater." It's just like with drinking... If you think that you don't have a problem... Well that's a problem. If you acknowledge that you have a problem and keep addressing it every single day then you will stay successful. OA is not the only way. There are other support groups out there. If there is a good mix of healthy people who are going to the one you went to (in addition to the few who gained), then keep going back. The great thing about these groups is that you learn to accept these people foibles and all... And then this magic thing happens and you learn to accept and love and respect yourself and once that happens you will NEVER GO BACK!!! [emoji4]