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May 18th- Binging and Guilt!



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Having my surgery on the 18th of May... FREAKING OUT!!!!! food is my coping mechanism, so... Hello binging time! I just keep asking myself how I ever let it get this bad. Why did I let myself go? How did I get to this point? I'm a 20yr old needing bariatric surgery, who was about a 100 pounds lighter 2yrs ago. And I'm also having intense guilt... I did this to myself. Why am I taking the 'easy' way out? I know the weight gain was a consequence of the depression I went through, and still dealing with... And it's not entirely my fault, but gosh the guilt is almost crippling.

Anyway. Anyone having theirs around that time too? Wanna be buddies ?

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Hey! I'm having my surgery May 18th too (pending insurance approval - say a prayer)!! Also I'm 21, we should be friends!! :D

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Honey, this is NOT the easy way out. I am 6 wks post op and weighed 243 before surgery. I am a retired CPT from the Army and never dreamed that I would end up this way. I use to weigh 117 lbs for years. I asked myself how this happened too but it really doesn't matter. The important thing is that you are doing something about it. I don't know if age gives you any special resolve, as I am almost 57 yrs old, but I have lost 32 lbs in 6 weeks and I LOVED food. You will make it regardless. You will not have a choice. You will see things much differently after your surgery has come and gone. But, one word of advice. Whether your doctor told you to or not, start being on a liquid diet now if your surgery is the 18th. I ate right up until the night before my surgery and the incision, one of five, that he took the stomach out of he aslo had to clean out because my stomach was full of food. I ended up getting an infection and still have an open incision getting wound care every day. It is not worth it!!! Take this simple word of advice. Start that liquid diet now!

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I can promise you this is not the "easy" way out. But it does get easier. There are LOTS of reasons that we develop the habits that we do. It's probably safe to say that most of us have used food as a way to deal with just about every emotion. You're happy...throw a party..with food, you're sad...eat your way happy, you're angry...take it out on food.

Food has always been the "global remedy" for emotions and issues in our lives and we've all been there. This surgery doesn't magically fix everything for you, but it does give you the tools necessary to be successful and make better food choices moving forward.

Good luck! We're all cheering for you! :D

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