Hubby not being supportive

[Valentina 2,642]

Don't give up on talking with him! Talk, then talk, then talk some more. PLEASE!!!! DO NOT go into this surgery without giving him and you EVERY oportunity to be supportive.

This is why I strongly believe that it should be mandatory that there be at least one "couple's session" with a therapist PRE OP. --or better yet, a SO session with a therapist. That would give his/her fears/opinions a chance to be heard and addressed.

You are going to change after WLS. You are his "better half". Maybe he doesn't want you to change.--or is fearful of you changing.

PLEASE, take the time and EVERY chance to gets his support. I promise you, you will not regret doing so.

Prayers going up for the both of you.

[Sophie74656 1,572]

Don't give up on talking with him! Talk, then talk, then talk some more. PLEASE!!!! DO NOT go into this surgery without giving him and you EVERY oportunity to be supportive.

This is why I strongly believe that it should be mandatory that there be at least one "couple's session" with a therapist PRE OP. --or better yet, a SO session with a therapist. That would give his/her fears/opinions a chance to be heard and addressed.

You are going to change after WLS. You are his "better half". Maybe he doesn't want you to change.--or is fearful of you changing.

PLEASE, take the time and EVERY chance to gets his support. I promise you, you will not regret doing so.

Prayers going up for the both of you.

I think that is a great idead. I was lucky that my husband was not trying to talk me out of surgery (actually by thr time i had surgery he had already mentally checked out of the marriage and didn't care one way or the other) but I've heard often about unsupportive partners.

[OKCPirate 5,323]

Einstein said "No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it." That said, arguing about the surgery apart from the benefits is false discussion. I suggest you read this thread for inspiration:

http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/195065-you-know-you-lost-weight-when/

And have your husband read:

http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/219760-sex-oh-my-god-sex/

Keep your eye on the prize and good luck.

[Christinamo7 4,042]

What he doesn't get is that your stomach is not a perfectly healthy organ, and your liver, gallbladder and heart aren't either. The greater risk is having a stroke or heart attack.

exactly.