BAM....and there it is.

[Julie norton 2,850]

Sigh... It may be that the old folks just aren't gonna change. However I would try to not give them any ammunition, like exact numbers.

Just Know they think they may be joking or making small talk.... And it hurts like a knife!

I agree with the others to back away a bit and smile and change the subject. It probably is NOT bothering these individuals.... Just their unknowing targets.

Parents and in laws and family are perceived to be kinda safe.... But they are not... As we see. We take it in deep and therein lies the rub.

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

@@gowalking ... first, I'm sorry your dad is a perfect a*****e. And he really is.

Second, I hope your fill is just what the doctor ordered.

Third, you are such a pleasure to hang out with here at BP. You really are such a smart, lovely person. It's really nice to know you. Thanks for being here.

[gowalking 10,790]

Thanks sooo much for the support and advice. You folks rock...you really do.

[NikkiDoc 312]

My mother is a petite 5'2". She would give me weight loss advise because she had to lose 20 pounds after I was born and always struggled gaining and losing those 10 pounds. There were times she would actually get too thin. Mind you she was not fit just thin. Weight loss advise from somebody who needs to lose 10 pounds isn't real helpful to somebody who needs to lose 100 pounds (as you all know).

I got to the point that I told her my weight and weight loss in general was not a topic we would discuss. If she started to stray there I just reminded her that we would not discuss this.

Sorry your father is such an a$$hat. Limiting contact isn't the worst thing in the world. You need to protect yourself. You also need to make sure that your children and grandchildren don't get subjected to the same judgmental treatment. Hopefully you would cut ties with a "friend" that treats you this way. No reason you need to put up with crap just because you are related to them.