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I'm frustrated today.....

Tomorrow will be 4 weeks since my sleeve and I have not lost the weight I expected.

I lost 14 pounds on the pre-surgery 2 week diet (Optifast) and weighted 233 on the day of surgery. I have only lost 15 pounds since the surgery and am feeling quiet discouraged. I am walking regularly two times per day. My meals are within limits of the diet plan. I am using Bariatastic to track all of the food and exercise intake now to make sure that I am in alignment. I am getting my Protein, fluids (except for 2 days this past week).

I am starting to have thoughts like "Is this it?" "I had the surgery and am still gonna be this size?"

When I met my NUT and surgeon a couple of weeks ago, they both said I was doing well with the weight loss.

I recently heard about the 3-4 week stall (from this site) and just don't know what else to do.

I just needed to vent and I can feel some twinges of fear and regret popping up....

I guess I am looking for some support, advice, and reassurance.

Thanks.

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Heyyy! Well in 4 weeks, 15 lbs is a lot so congrats! Keep on trucking and the weight will continue to drop. Are u measuring urself too?

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Seriously, you really need to let go of any expectations of amount of weight loss in the first month to six weeks when your body's primary goal is to heal from the insult of surgery.

Second, put away the damned scale. Follow your postop instructions. Get in your Fluid and your Protein. Avoid exercising too much at this point, remember that your body is still stressed from healing. You won't be getting in enough calories to support much in the way of exercise.

What I personally found was that my weight loss ramped up after Week 4. I lost before that, certainly, but my surgeon has me increasing calories gradually, and it wasn't until I got to 700-800 calories/day that the losses were consistent. I'll move toward solids (from softs) heading to Week 8, and from Week 8-12 she wants me to increase to 900-1200 calories/day and keep it there.

Keep doing what you're doing, except the worrying. You can dropkick that. You aren't the first person who has wondered "but what if I'm the only person out there who will fail at WLS?" You won't be. We promise.

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LOL!

What'd you think was gonna happen Month One post-op -- the WLS fairy godmother (who looks just like Cher, btw) was gonna show up and poof you a size 4 ballgown that would fit you perfectly?

I lost 10.4 pounds the first month post-op.

I've lost 100 pounds altogether.

I've maintained my weight loss for nearly a year and now weigh 135 pounds.

Protip: It matters not a whit whether you lose 10 pounds a month or 30 pounds a month (btw, at your low starting BMI you were NEVER going to lose 30 pounds/month). The only thing that matters is that you lose all your excess weight and eventually learn how to maintain your new, healthy weight.

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I lost 17 pounds the first 6 weeks.

I have lost 100% of my excess weight and have been maintaining for close to a year now.

You're doing great. No, you're not even close to being done losing. Keep working the program and you'll see results. I promise.

Get that doubt outta your head and get to work getting your fluids and protein!

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During your stay at the hospital after surgery, generally individuals gain some weight because they fill your body with fluids. So therefore before you start to show positive results, you must first loose this added weight.

After RNY gastric bypass surgery, I lost my weight quickly. But then after around 6 or 7 months I was finished and I transitioned into the "maintenance" phase. But sleeve patients are different. They lose weight at a much slower pace and they also drop weight for a longer period of time, sometimes a year and a half. So be patient and let the magic happen.

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FIRST OFF EXCUSE THE LINE I DON'T KNOW HOW TO GET RID OF THIS LINE

So what to do to lose more weight I lost my weight from speed walking at orange theory every day maybe twice a day and use more calories so when I ate or I should say drink no eating for me I lost 10 to 15 lbs week for 5 months I lost a total of 80 lbs and feel awesome a year later I am maintaining my weight I am still 179 sometimes 182 but never more than that if I lose I lose in the stomach I have no hips lost my boobs but that's ok wear a push up bra as long as I am still a 10-12 in a dress or jeans I am ok do I eat I nibble on chicken or lamb chops broth Soup is good I do not go to macdonalds or any fast foods do not think about it either my sleeve is the most important thing in my life and being skinny no more people calling me fat especially men at work snickering it is a whole different world for me and I still exercise every day because if I want something I have to make sure I work it off and lose a pound or two that day

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LOL!

What'd you think was gonna happen Month One post-op -- the WLS fairy godmother (who looks just like Cher, btw) was gonna show up and poof you a size 4 ballgown that would fit you perfectly?

I lost 10.4 pounds the first month post-op.

I've lost 100 pounds altogether.

I've maintained my weight loss for nearly a year and now weigh 135 pounds.

Protip: It matters not a whit whether you lose 10 pounds a month or 30 pounds a month (btw, at your low starting BMI you were NEVER going to lose 30 pounds/month). The only thing that matters is that you lose all your excess weight and eventually learn how to maintain your new, healthy weight.

I love this ????

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This is exactly why I wrote this thread! I was starting to climb up that crazy tree and needed to be talked down by you all. Thanks!!!

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This past Wednesday made 4 weeks for me, and I too had the "OMG WHAT IF" .....post.

I really hate you are feeling so disappointed, but yet I'm a smidge relieved in knowing I'm not the only one.

Still seeing no change, Im still in a constant battle with the "it's not working" thoughts, so your post couldn't have come at a better time for me.

In all reality, I was hoping for the Cher impersonating WLS fairy godmother, so I'm glad there are all the fabulous folks on here to "guide" us all back to reality.

Granted, it would be nice to wake up and be whatever we see as a perfect size, but I'm trusting we both will get through this for however long it takes.

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LOL!

What'd you think was gonna happen Month One post-op -- the WLS fairy godmother (who looks just like Cher, btw) was gonna show up and poof you a size 4 ballgown that would fit you perfectly?

Uh... yeah! Where in the heck is Cher? LOL. I'm three weeks post-surgery and needed this reality check too!

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I think 15lbs is good at this point, especially since you weren't super heavy to start. I think a lot of people see what others are losing and get discouraged. But, someone who starts at 350 is going to lose more quickly than someone at 230. Plus everyone is different

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