Need support .. Tempted to cancel surgery

[NeedaBreak4Me 1,755]

Hi all

I am totally freaking out! My surgery is one week away and i am so tempted to cancel.

I am really scared and nervous.

I am not new to WLS, i had the band for 6 years, had complications and had it removed 12 months ago, so i have been through this process before and have an idea of what to expect kind of.

I keep asking myself the following...

- Cant i just continue Optifast to loose weight.

- what will happen 20 years down the track.

- is it necessary since i am not that big and i hold my weight well

- why go through this and get loose skin when my body is not that flabby now.

- will this cause me to have no social life as eating is a form of social and cultural get togethers.

- my hair is already falling out.... will i be bald.

And so much more. Ive researched for months and still can't imagine how much I will be able to eat n drink.

Please help... i am seriously tempted to cancel my surgery as i am petrified that ill end up with complications that I had with my band 6 years out.

Did anyone else go through this so close to surgery?

[Myka99 42]

Today was a really bad day for me i am on day 6 of the liquid diet and i had the same thought today....almost gave up.....thought why cant i just do this on my own.....but you know what I wont.....i will go back to eating to the point nothing is good anymore anyway.....so hang in there, I am getting the sleeve as well on the 21st of April i am very nervous and worried about recovery time....but guarantee you that you will regret cancelling it.....as i would so i am trucking along.....add me as a friend we can keep each other motivated

[NeedaBreak4Me 1,755]

Thanks myka99.

I appreciate your reply.

I am soing ok with the liquid diet, i guess from doing it last time i knew what to expect so i was much more prepared for it this time.

I just spring cleaned my house n garage for the first 3 days... that kept me busy and my mind of food...

Im glad to have met someone so close to my surgery date.

Whats your story?

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[Christinamo7 4,042]

you're totally normal.

but here is the bald faced truth. what will happen in 20 years is that most likely you will weigh MORE than your highest weight ever.

most likely any comorbidities you have will be worse, and some you don't have you probably will.

I had to weigh the (VERY REAL) risks of my obesity vs the risks of surgery.

you will not be eating that differently once you get to maintenance.

However, this is not a magic pill. it is a complete (for the rest of your life) change. if you aren't ready, you aren't ready.

[NeedaBreak4Me 1,755]

you're totally normal.

but here is the bald faced truth. what will happen in 20 years is that most likely you will weigh MORE than your highest weight ever.

most likely any comorbidities you have will be worse, and some you don't have you probably will.

I had to weigh the (VERY REAL) risks of my obesity vs the risks of surgery.

you will not be eating that differently once you get to maintenance.

However, this is not a magic pill. it is a complete (for the rest of your life) change. if you aren't ready, you aren't ready.

Thanks Christinamo7...

I know that without this surgery that i will not be able to control my weight.

Since i had the band removed 12m ago.. ive gained most back.. even with eating well and being active.

I know ill probably be a slow loser and im ok with that.. as long as im losing.

Funny i was ready.... then bam.. last two days my mind has gone into overdrive.. guess reality has set in... that this time next week ill be post op

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