To Tell Or Not to Tell

[anitavee 57]

Most of my family live 1000's of miles away. I decided not to tell anyone because I have the most negative and annoying family members. I was on a public weight loss journey before the surgery and so I figured they would just think it was from that journey. I literally decided to lose weight in November and lost 20 pounds by the new year. I had my first consult for WLS on 1/7/2016 and was approved 3/23/2016. Surgery was 4/5/2016.

I didn't even tell my 24 year old daughters who o am very close to. Only me and my husband know of my WLS. I'm not ashamed but I need support and not interviews or negative comments. When I first talked about it... I got " your crazy and your not that fat!"

Size 22, 6 feet tall and 342 pounds is fat! I had health issues and felt ashamed that I had gained over 200 pounds in 20 years.

Anyone else decide to keep WLS to restricted people in their lives?

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[KristenLe 5,979]

Only my sister and boyfriend know so far! Once I get closer, I'll tell my parents and nieces. I have a good 6 months before I can be scheduled and it will be stressful enough without scrutiny and questions... Especially from my Mom.

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[MrsRP 36]

My husband is the only one that knows. And I told one close friend a few days ago after I got the call that I was approved. I'm scheduled for 4/18.

[theladyslipper 120]

I only told 4 close friends, my husband & mother. For me, it's just a personal thing. I have so many friends who are always trying to lose weight or are so weight conscious & many of them I consider normal to thin weight. Some people can get competitive and not always be happy for your weight loss. We all have our own issues. You'll know who to share with and who not to.

Edited April 10, 2016 by theladyslipper

[anitavee 57]

Thank you everyone. Your comments are helpful and always appreciated.

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[LollieC 2]

I haven't told anyone. Only my husband knows. Frankly it's none of their business! Do what you think feels right and cut the negativity. dont make it harder than it already is!

[cookarue 233]

I've only told my husband, mother, and sister. That's it. Nobody else. The thing about telling people you've had weight loss surgery is that you can't un-tell them. My friend who had surgery the same day as I did, has told everyone and has text me several times in this last 3 months telling me all the horrible things people have said to her. I can just say that I've been very happy with my choice to keep my private business out of the minds and mouths of other people. When people ask how I'm losing weight, I just say low carbs, no sugar. End of conversation.

[sgc 538]

I'm not going to tell anyone. I do have to tell some people why I'm going to the hospital for surgery. I'm going to tell them it is to repair my hiatal hernia which is true. Just leave out the sleeve part.

[FocusOnMeNow 599]

I am what I am I tell anyone who asks and I own it. Best thing I ever did for myself and I'm so proud. Anyone who isn't can go to heck;-)

I meant anyone who's not proud of me not anyone who isn't proud sorry for the typo