The evolution of weight loss compliments

[dhrguru 1,238]

I've been getting lots of compliments, and it humorous to me to see how they've evolved. They have progressed like this:

(The double take-- no words, just looking twice cause something seems different.)

You look like you're losing weight.

You're slimming down

You look great

You're getting skinny

Your face looks so slim

You're getting too skinny

Careful, you don't want your face to get too skinny

You're withering away!

I guess 'skin and bones' is coming next. Doesn't bother me, but listing them out shows how this slowly turns into passive- aggressive 'advice' when others feel enough is enough.

[kaitlynm 335]

I'm about 2/3 of the way to my goal and my friend told me I'm starting to look haggard because I'm loosing too much weight. I would rather people would just say nothing about it.

[PinkPolkadot619 337]

Yep, I am now called every insulting way you can say skinny possible.....why people think it's okay to comment on weight is beyond me!!

I mean they would never say, "damn you got fat! Don't gain anymore or you will look ugly..... Oh people...

[beachgal2935 596]

I'm almost 1 year post-op and I've heard it all. Most everyone has been very sweet to me. My 80 year old mother seems to have the hardest time with it. She's worried I'll blow away - LOL! I let anything negative go because the complications of being obese caused me to have a stroke 2 1/2 years ago. At 54, my health and happiness is #1 now

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[WLSResources/ClothingExch 3,444]

Fiddle-dee-dee on all of them, Chiclet.

You look stunningly beautiful in the new signature photo, hair color and all.

How's that other thing going? You know... No more blushing, I'll bet.

[WLSResources/ClothingExch 3,444]

I mean they would never say, "damn you got fat! Don't gain anymore or you will look ugly..... Oh people...

Wouldn't they? If not, you know the good ones.

[Baconville 578]

Beachgal I am with you! My Mom is 86 and I am her primary care giver. She has dementia - so doesn't really know how often she is saying this to me, however just about EVERY time I see her she comments on my weight and "how wonderful I look now" or "now that I lost all that weight I am beautiful". I have lost a lot of weight (over 200 pounds) but it would be nice if at least your own MOTHER thought you were beautiful no matter what size you are! I just let it go...

Carol

[lifeofblair 308]

I've gone through them all. I'm currently on the withering away and skin and bones.