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umo    86

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Congrats on your progress! I too did not have a great deal of support system in my daily life. I had my surgery at Nicholson Clinic too :)
This site has been my support system from day one. There is a wealth of information and one is free to share experiences, ask questions and get tons of answers :D

BariatricPal is filled awesome gals and guys going through the same stuff as you so come often for support. All the best.

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finallyfree!    84

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Hey GY, I have nothing useful to add as I don't live in your country, but I have found the posts on this forum to be particularly informative and helpful and the overwhelming majority of members just leap in to help. I am glad you have found a support group as we all need someone. I do not have anyone as such but at least I don't have a 'stone wall' either. Maybe he doesn't want you to succeed - his issues, not yours. Do this for yourself and be happy with your success, acknowledge the beautiful inner and outer you, we are all behind you.

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gingeryank    37

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Congrats on your progress! I too did not have a great deal of support system in my daily life. I had my surgery at Nicholson Clinic too :)

This site has been my support system from day one. There is a wealth of information and one is free to share experiences, ask questions and get tons of answers :D

BariatricPal is filled awesome gals and guys going through the same stuff as you so come often for support. All the best.

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gingeryank    37

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Umo, what a small world! I'm thrilled to meet someone else from the Nicholson Clinic. Maybe we can keep in touch through this site. I'm curious to learn where you are on your journey and what your experiences have been like so far. Nice to "meet" you. :)

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Hey GY, I have nothing useful to add as I don't live in your country, but I have found the posts on this forum to be particularly informative and helpful and the overwhelming majority of members just leap in to help. I am glad you have found a support group as we all need someone. I do not have anyone as such but at least I don't have a 'stone wall' either. Maybe he doesn't want you to succeed - his issues, not yours. Do this for yourself and be happy with your success, acknowledge the beautiful inner and outer you, we are all behind you.

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Falecha    50

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Greetings, all. I'm a newbie. I'm a 5'1 mother to a three-year-old son and a professor by trade. My pre-op weight was 212. I was 192.8 on the day of my surgery, Feb 25th, and today I'm 176.2. My surgeon was Dr. Thomas Roshek in Plano/Frisco, TX.

I'm thrilled with the surgery and the 35.2 lb weight loss, but I don't have a large support system in general, and I have a support system of exactly 0 in relationship to my surgery. :) I didn't know how much I'd need someone (or a small village?) to walk this journey with me until now, my fifth week post op.

My husband is not supportive. He doesn't overtly try to undermine my progress, but he doesn't ask questions. He hasn't made a single comment about my weight loss. And he's a gym rat--a muscular, bully of a guy who used to be a personal trainer. This is sort of his business, so to speak: to notice body changes.

But I digress. Clearly I need to look elsewhere for an anchor to keep me from drowning. I want to succeed.

Do you know of any support groups--virtual or face-to-face--in the north DFW area? A private FB group? Helpful forums on here? Anything, really.

ginger

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I'll help be ur support

Falecha

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gingeryank    37

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Re: finallyfree

Thanks for reaching out to me and for the affirmation. :) He was supportive the day of surgery and the day after. Then nothing. Weird, I know. Thanks to everyone who has responded to my thread. It's so refreshing to hear that people are behind me. I hope to return the gesture.

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gingeryank    37

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Thank you, Falecha! I'd love to support you, too. I welcome anyone here to PM me anytime. I don't know much being only 4+ weeks in, but I'll happily listen and share what I know.

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jane13    2,256

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@@gingeryank - welcome to the BP family and keep posting - we are here for you!

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MIMISAN    404

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@gingeryank I have a private Facebook page for March sleevers. My own surgery was March 1st. Even though you aren't a March sleever I know our group would welcome you with open arms. I am also a Texan, I live in Kerrville which is 60 miles from San Antonio. Since we are a secret group you will need to friend me on FB or give me your FB name and I can try to friend you, then I can aid you to our group. I am Donna Pippin North

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KristenLe    5,979

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Maybe your husband preferred you overweight and insecure so he had more control over you? I have just started on my journey but can't imagine going through it without the support of my significant other. I am sorry that you have to. Stay strong and positive!

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Inner Surfer Girl    12,015

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It's funny. I teach online, but I wouldn't describe myself as an online/social media enthusiast. I feel like I need to become one insofar as I need to be part of a community. I also have a genetic autoimmune disease, AS, and would love to connect with others with chronic diseases/pain.

I have an excellent psychologist. I guess I forgot that important detail. She's especially helpful in pointing out my husband's control issues and showing me how to retain my autonomy and freedom (and joy!) in the midst of them. I see her weekly, but most recently, she's given me the gentle push to branch out and meet people. I'm so used to hiding--mainly due to my weight--so this step will be important for me.

Congrats on being 19 months post op! Can't wait to be there.

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Another great resource for in-person face-to-face support (and hugs) is OA. You can find meeting lists online at OA.org.

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