Breaking Self-Destructive Habits and Patterns

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

Whether or not you practice self-destructive habits, I thought this article had some good insight:

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/08/the-vicious-cycle-of-self-destruction-how-to-get-out-of-it/

[mngreeneyes 674]

Great article. Got me thinking of my job search as possibly a place I need to look more closely at the questions at the end. I am an admin asst with a masters degree. It is a job that requires a high school diploma. I work in a fundraising department and have more education in fundraising than many of the fundraisers I support. My masters degree is in Nonprofit Management. This job, however mundane, is safe. I don't have to challenge myself much to be "amazing" at it. I think I have found a job that will move me into a more logical, given my education, career path, but I am terrified that I will fail or hate it.

Good thing I am going to my therapist this afternoon! Got new things to talk about!

pam

[gowalking 10,790]

Great article. Got me thinking of my job search as possibly a place I need to look more closely at the questions at the end. I am an admin asst with a masters degree. It is a job that requires a high school diploma. I work in a fundraising department and have more education in fundraising than many of the fundraisers I support. My masters degree is in Nonprofit Management. This job, however mundane, is safe. I don't have to challenge myself much to be "amazing" at it. I think I have found a job that will move me into a more logical, given my education, career path, but I am terrified that I will fail or hate it.

Good thing I am going to my therapist this afternoon! Got new things to talk about!

pam

Yup. Nothing against admins...the two who support my group are wonderful...but you have a masters degree..you are selling yourself short if you do not challenge yourself and find employment that better matches your skill set. Good luck!

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

Great article. Got me thinking of my job search as possibly a place I need to look more closely at the questions at the end. I am an admin asst with a masters degree. It is a job that requires a high school diploma. I work in a fundraising department and have more education in fundraising than many of the fundraisers I support. My masters degree is in Nonprofit Management. This job, however mundane, is safe. I don't have to challenge myself much to be "amazing" at it. I think I have found a job that will move me into a more logical, given my education, career path, but I am terrified that I will fail or hate it.

Good thing I am going to my therapist this afternoon! Got new things to talk about!

pam

I know as a woman I have been socialized to only go for things I know I can do well rather than try something I think I can do.

After many years I have seen so many men get jobs/promotions with less education, experience, skill, just because their egos have no problem claiming expertise in areas where they have none.

Not that I want to misrepresent my skills and a abilities, but I am trying to learn to be more confident in presenting them.

Being an obese woman was never a benefit. Now that I am regaining my health and fitness I intend to go for it!

[mngreeneyes 674]

@@gowalking and @@Inner Surfer Girl

I have nothing against being an admin. I've been doing it off and on for about 12 years. I was a teacher in my previous life and when I left teaching, I was in a bad place emotionally so I took what I could get and I knew I could be good at. While I was being an admin at a different university than where I work now, I earned my masters degree. I still don't feel like I am really doing anything with it. Unfortunately, now that I've been an admin, its hard to get out of being and admin, especially within the University.

The job I am applying for includes a very tailored training program on how to do face to face fundraising, which is the part I am unsure of right now. I have an informational meeting with the HR recruiter on Monday, and I have a long weekend to prep for the meeting and rework my resume to be more fundraising centric.

Thanks for the encouragement. I plan to own this. I am so ready!

pam

[Christinamo7 4,042]

I have been trying to find a better job for about 3 years. I have had excellent interviews, and often told after the fact that I would have been the second choice - I am going to be curious to see if/how my weight loss may affect being in the job market.

[Christinamo7 4,042]

I have been trying to find a better job for about 3 years. I have had excellent interviews, and often told after the fact that I would have been the second choice - I am going to be curious to see if/how my weight loss may affect being in the job market.

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

@@gowalking and @@Inner Surfer Girl

I have nothing against being an admin. I've been doing it off and on for about 12 years. I was a teacher in my previous life and when I left teaching, I was in a bad place emotionally so I took what I could get and I knew I could be good at. While I was being an admin at a different university than where I work now, I earned my masters degree. I still don't feel like I am really doing anything with it. Unfortunately, now that I've been an admin, its hard to get out of being and admin, especially within the University.

The job I am applying for includes a very tailored training program on how to do face to face fundraising, which is the part I am unsure of right now. I have an informational meeting with the HR recruiter on Monday, and I have a long weekend to prep for the meeting and rework my resume to be more fundraising centric.

Thanks for the encouragement. I plan to own this. I am so ready!

pam

Best of luck! You are going to do great. I know it.

[mngreeneyes 674]

@Christinamo7

I am curious too for myself. I also am not leaving anything to chance. I have people helping me prep already eventhough I haven't sent in my resume yet. I have a friend lined up to coach me on interviewing. Another who is helping with my resume and cover letter. I feel like I am actually taking charge of my life. I've been pretty passive and nonchalant. That's done now.

Good luck on your job search. Let me know if I can help in any way! I am pretty good at helping people with their resumes. Just not as good at my own.

pam