Dating

[Lisa_85 118]

So I thought after losing 60Ibs. I would put myself out there. So I was talking to a guy for a couple of days whom seem to be really nice and had his act together. Just to end up annoying me. lol Why do I even bother or even put myself out there !?! Now I am sitting at work upset thinking I am not good enough for pple. I have always had a hard time dating.

[Katnroyal 225]

That's a load of crap, if he stopped talking to you his loss, and he wasn't worth knowing. Focus on you right now if you aren't ready. Do not let this one hiccup ruin your day or put a damper on your confidence.

[Lisa_85 118]

I bet having a love life isn't in my cards. lol

[CowgirlJane 14,259]

ok, to play the dating game, you need a much thicker skin than that! People come and go... for no obvious reason and lots of time I am glad they are gone. And,i have been flakey too - I just am not invested until I get to know somebody.

The hard part for me, is once i am invested, i hate things to end even if I want it to end. i know that sounds crazy, but it is how i feel.

i just started dating again, after taking a break. I met the first person last night and what was incredibly refreshing is my ability to be completely straightforward. We spent a few hours together and at some point we spoke about very genuine things. There is something to be said for just not worrying too much about one person in the early stages - there are like a lot more out there where that one came from.

don't give up so easily and don't focus too early on one person because about 95-99% percent of them aren't a good match or it isnt the right time for one or the other of you anyway.

[GibbsGirl 483]

@@CowgirlJane you rock!!! Lisa_85 you may be down but you look fabulous, cowgirljane has made great points, you never know till you try.

[BigViffer 3,544]

I luckily haven't dated in years, but one thing I will pass on that I firmly believe; aim high. Never put a person on a pedestal because many times that person is just wanting someone to approach them. I dated several women that should have been out of my league, but men never asked them out for fear of rejection.

Also, don't forget to focus on yourself. Workout because you want to look good as well as feel good. Buy one thing for yourself every month. Doesn't have to be something expensive, maybe a shirt or dress or even a knick-knack for the house. Do things that improve your life and your self image/confidence. A pretty woman like yourself paired with confidence can conquer the world.