Boss

[missvee 28]

I am at a loss right now. I was in my boss' office from my weekly review and she point blank asked me if all my appointments lately are for bariatric surgery. I only told family, a few close friends and an HR rep. I didn't feel comfortable telling anyone else. She said another person in the office is doing it and recognized my Protein drinks. I can't lie(ever it's a curse) so I said yes but then to change the direction I said "but I'm also getting a hernia repaired too". And then I said I wasn't telling anyone and don't feel comfortable with others knowing my medical info.

I just really feel deflated. I don't know how else to put it. I only told those I trusted and could count on for support. Maybe I'm overreacting but i was really caught off guard.

Putting the "she's not supposed to ask" part aside. Do you have the relationship with her that might've made her think it was okay to ask?

I'm at the other end of the stick because I told EVERYONE at my job and when I miss a day for appointments, the next day everyone asks how it went what's the next step what did I learn. They've all been supportive and I'm glad!

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[Jessica Ellison-Correa 66]

I work for a tiny company and it would be hard to miss a few weeks of work to go unnoticed so I'm pretty open with them

[2goldengirl 2,076]

I am usually pretty upfront. But my work environment is a mess until May, when they are supposed to make changes and lessen my work load....yadda, yadda, yadda......I am afraid if I tell them why I am going they will ask me to postpone. My surgery will probably be in May. I work for a large company and all of my paperwork will be processed through the HR Leave Team. My boss will not be told the reason. But it's darn awkward. She would never point blank ask, but the "I hope you're okay", etc will be so darn uncomfortable. You feel the need to explain.

Do what I did: "I'm fine. I just have a little something I need to take care of". It worked!