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I have used Ourtime.com and seniorpeoplemeet.com. I am not crazy about match because I constantly get hit on my guys in their 20s with cougar fetishes. Lol

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I have used Ourtime.com and seniorpeoplemeet.com. I am not crazy about match because I constantly get hit on my guys in their 20s with cougar fetishes. Lol

If you don't mind buying the drinks the young dudes could be fun esp. during the hormone dump when you are losing fat quickly. There are some interesting videos on YouTube on the cougar phenomenon and how to navigate the age gap. As Bob Segar sang "she used me and I used her but neither one cared...we were getting our share."

The nice thing about online dating is you can delete the emails of those who are not your preference without them hanging around.

BTW, get a google phone number so you don't have to give out your real one until you know you really like the person. Great way to avoid serious clingers. Kik messaging is also nice to protect your privacy.

I know dating is not easy, but four years and a couple of serious relationships finally lead to my girlfriend and my time with her made all of it worth it. And in retrospect I had a great time dating, but I'm having an even better time now.

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I got so tired of being alone that I did online dating. I only joined websites for chubby people (datingcurves). I met some scam artists, sleazeballs, some nice guys and eventually my boyfriend of nearly 7 years. He's seen me at my worst and I hope after WLS our relationship gets even stronger (and the sex better). ;-). I honestly never thought I could put myself out there - especially being obese - but I did and as my sister used to tell me - you're not going to meet anyone sitting at home! Just be safe!

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I have used Ourtime.com and seniorpeoplemeet.com. I am not crazy about match because I constantly get hit on my guys in their 20s with cougar fetishes. Lol

If you don't mind buying the drinks the young dudes could be fun esp. during the hormone dump when you are losing fat quickly. There are some interesting videos on YouTube on the cougar phenomenon and how to navigate the age gap. As Bob Segar sang "she used me and I used her but neither one cared...we were getting our share."

The nice thing about online dating is you can delete the emails of those who are not your preference without them hanging around.

BTW, get a google phone number so you don't have to give out your real one until you know you really like the person. Great way to avoid serious clingers. Kik messaging is also nice to protect your privacy.

I know dating is not easy, but four years and a couple of serious relationships finally lead to my girlfriend and my time with her made all of it worth it. And in retrospect I had a great time dating, but I'm having an even better time now.

I don't want to navigate the cougar phenomenon. I just don't have a preference for younger men or smokers.

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@@maggie409 - It was really a tongue in cheek suggestion. I am completely with you on excluding smokers. I dated one person who was in her 20's last year (Full disclosure: she reached out to me, she didn't want kids and liked older guys). That said, it reinforced my view that I prefer people my own age.

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Besides I have a basic rule...nobody under 40 gets to see me nekkid

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Besides I have a basic rule...nobody under 40 gets to see me nekkid

Sweet! I'm about to be 42! What do I get??!

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It is false logic to think since nobody under 40 then everyone over 40 must be "in". Ha

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It is false logic to think since nobody under 40 then everyone over 40 must be "in". Ha

Damn... killjoy!

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I was having moderate success with eHarmony. I was getting lots of matches daily that lived in my area. Now all of my matches are in Canada. I'm quite fond of Canada but I don't want to deal with a relationship in another country. Anybody else experience this where the location of matches suddenly changes?

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I would love a site for singles who have had bariatric surgery. I think it would make some things easier. I know there are two sites but I checked then out and there are very few people on them.

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I really wanted to give up on online dating since mostly hicks live in this town. I always get guys that want to take me fishing and hunting.

I rejoined Match and changed my pictures and profile. A guy popped up whom I had not seen before. Match has a way to live chat so we started messaging back and forth. He's apparently been lurking but finally joined on their 7 day free trial. He said he's seen my pictures before and wanted to write before but really wanted to hold it under 60. I am glad he messaged me because after chatting back and forth off and on all day Sunday, he finally suggested dinner. We really hit it off and I was amazed at how sweet and considerate he is. We talked at the table forever and then he asked if we could go to the beach and go hiking on Monday. Well that date lasted all day long and we were both kind of giddy about each other.

I am nervous cause he's only 55 and I am 63. I would have never messaged him. This morning he called and said he was deleting his match profile and hoped I would too. I did hide it instead of deleting it, cause I am not as optimistic as he is. I'd like to be, but I've been doing this awhile and something always turns out to be different than I thought.

I guess I am hopeful though! I know I loved being with him all day yesterday all day and into the evening!

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