New Friends?

[lamulatona 17]

oh I didn't know you can have a lap band and then change to a sleeve ? please advise

[sharkgirl 251]

I do get annoyed with the friends who don't take my needs into consideration such as book club being at a winery or held at an Italian restaurant (a trigger food for me). I realize it isn't always about me and they shouldn't have to change because of me but it still bugs me.

[mngreeneyes 674]

Having read about "friends" on here before surgery, I have been expecting some distancing from some people. So far I haven't noticed anything except me distancing myself from anyone who is overly negative. For example, the "friend" who frequently told me that I couldn't understand her life because she was treated differently because she is pretty! Or the chronic liar and drama queen. I am being much more selective about who is in my friend circle. I chose people now who bring value to my life an appreciate what I bring to theirs. I had too many "friendships" that were one-sided with me being the friend and being taken advantage of.

It helps that I am doing the choosing. Its still scary, but I think it hurts less than being rejected.

Chin up everyone! We are great and deserve to have friends who build us up and appreciate us for our gifts.

pam

[lamulatona 17]

@@mngreeneyes thank you much, so far I have decided the same, my surgery was yesterday an I just told a few close friends about it.

[mngreeneyes 674]

@lamulatona WHOOOHOOO!! Congrats on your surgery. Welcome to the club. I pray all goes well for you.

pam