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I'm just curious what people think about this topic. I always thought that you need to really know a person before you can fall in love and now I am irrationally in love with someone I met 2 weeks ago and am trying to keep my head on straight. Thanks!

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I have come to the conclusion that we don't share a common definition of "in love". I can feel starstruck, awestruck, on fire, attachment feelings for someone pretty quickly, but looking back at my whole life, I think it takes me a good year before I feel true love for a person.

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How old are you? I do believe at a certain age you know when you've met a person that meets your expectations, but I wouldn't call it love.

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This is a strange topic. It sounds a little like puppy-love.

Having said that, I will admit that after writing to a girl on the other side of the world, I went to see her and proposed to her using a language dictionary after 6 weeks. (We didn't speak the same language.) I married her and we have been married for over 40 years now. I looked at it as a logical decision, not so much a romantic decision. We had many shared values. I am happy and I consider this to be one of the best decisions in my life. I experienced true adventure and now my children have a heritage like none other.

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I think it's not exactly common to fall in love that soon, but it's entirely possible. Most people aren't lucky enough to find a person they connect with that strongly and that quickly, so if you have, congratulations! I've been with the sweetest, most caring person I've ever met for almost 4 years, and I didn't trust my feelings in the beginning, but I can tell you honestly that I loved him within two weeks of meeting him. Honestly, I feel a surge of intense connection the first time we spoke, and so did he. I'm going to marry this guy. :)

I think a lot of people have experienced the pain that love and relationships with others can inflict and it makes them much more hesitant to truly open up to and connect with someone that quickly. It takes a young and relatively unscarred heart to be able to bare yourself to someone based on initial feelings of trust and attraction. I've sort of always operated this way, and while it has set me up for intense pain in the past, it's also given me a chance to experience the kind of wild, beautiful love that most people only dream of but are too jaded and scared to be open enough to experience.

But that's just my experience and view on the subject. :)

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Two weeks? Sure, why not? I can't argue it. For me we met in July. Engaged by early November and married the following June (that's 11 months). That was over 30 years ago. And I can say I've fallen in love with him again...it some how gets better.

When you find the right one, I don't think you can put a time requirement on it. Hey...it's love! ????

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My husband certainly fell in love that fast. :) He proposed on our second date -- with a diamond ring. No s**t!

But the real shocker is that I said yes. (WTF?!)

Two months later, we got married. And for the last 20 years we've remained in love and continued to learn what love is really all about.

EDIT: I should add that we were both in our 50s when we met. And before we met in real life we'd also known each other online (not on a matchmaking Web site) and communicated candidly about a vast array of topics.

I hope it works out for you. And if not, I hope you don't get pregnant. :)

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To the right person: "within a blink of an eye".

It they're not "the one": "Forever and a day still not long enough".

Can't force it, wish it, dream it.

What will be will be.

Enjoy and laugh often and enough for when tears and anguish come.

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I fell in love with a coconut pie once. So id say 2.5 seconds :)-

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Lol I love everyone's stories. :) I am 38 and have never felt like this before so I guess we will see what happens!

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I was 16 years old. My current boyfriend brought his friend to my house one night to meet me. His friend took one look at me and said, "You have the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen and I want to spend the rest of my life looking at them."

I fell in love instantly. Broke up with the current boyfriend and began dating his friend ( I know that's kinda mean, but all is fair in love and war).

That boy and I have been together ever since. We have been married 25 years this year and more in love than ever. We knew we were meant for each other instantly. Our love and marriage has been a blessing and I am thankful everyday.

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Infatuation and lust are easy. You can get those instantly. Trust me, I know. And they can make you crazy.

When the infatuation fades is when the real love begins. Love is both a choice and an action. You can choose to do loving things that makes your partner feel love, just as you can communicate to that person what makes you feel love.

Can you tell I've been working on my love languages class since I haven't given the class in 3 years???

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Ya'll are crazy ;)

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