Rude relatives

dave77 · February 2, 2016

Yep, I understand. I had a band in for about 5 years and lost all up 17 kgs. I did not tell my family as I was embarrassed (rightly or wrongly). But just before Christmas last year it slipped and had to be removed urgently and I needed my mum to look after my children. After I told my mum, who has been 'dieting' every day of my life, turned around and said, "Well it obviously didn't work did it?"

I am now considering the sleeve as I have regained about 10 kgs (although the Dr did say some of that would be fluids as I had not even kept Water down for ages). I will not be telling her! I already feel like a failure, I don't need her help.

Edited February 2, 2016 by dave77

Susan66 · February 2, 2016

I totally understand and when the negativity comes from those we least expect it from, it somehow hurts worse. I now realize that most of these people want the surgery for themselves, but just don't have the nerve, motivation & commitment to pursue the surgery like we do/did.

I didn't tell to many others after hearing those rude comments.

However, after I had the surgery I decided I wasn't hiding it & I would be ready to respond to any comments that were rude or inconsiderate. Best of luck to you in your new weight loss journey.

shellyd88 · February 2, 2016

Hi I'm sorry this happened to you seems ppl feel they can speak to us however they please sometimes you just can't count on family for support but usually they are quick to criticize you have to try to be as strong as you can alone if u must it's your life and your decision not theirs they don't get a vote I had a lot of oh you had surgery comments not that they said much but the tone implied they didn't approve however I'm not ashamed and told anyone who commented I didn't care what they thought so they could just keep their opinions to themselves and if they thought it was so "easy" they should go thru the process have the surgery and when they reach at least 6 months post op we can revisit this discussion and what exactly they think is " easy" about it that shut down that shit show pretty fast...