Talk you out of surgery?

[readyforachange84 10]

I just told one of my friends and he was like why do you want to be skinny? I told him I have too many health problems for being 31 and I need to get them under control so I can live longer. He was like well how skinny are you going to be. I hope you arent like a stick. I know he likes big girls so he doesnt want me to be smaller. I am not changing my mind for anyone especially a man. Did any of you deal with this? How did you handle it?

[juan110 87]

One of my friends ask me who am I'm trying to impress.i told him no one im trying to be healthier for me my wife kids and my future grandbaby

[jane13 2,256]

@@readyforachange84 - hate to ask, but here goes...is he overweight or a friend (who wants to be more)? Some people are jealous that you may be skinner (same gender friends) and other may think you won't want to be friends/BF/GF if they are heavier than the "norm".

[juan110 87]

No we been drinking buddies for 20 years and good friends he was wondering why i decided to do this i also told him that i was doing for medical reason my arthritis

[MarciaN 391]

A lot of folks tried to talk me out of it- They were worried about death during surgery. Now that it is over and I am feeling wonderful they seem to be OK. They truly were just worried for me.

[JamieLogical 8,710]

I only had one person who thought my surgery was a bad idea. He himself is very overweight and I think it's interesting that he was the only one who gave me a hard time. I think by telling me not to have surgery, he was defending his own decision not to have surgery? Though he didn't say so, I think he was making it more about him than about me. It immediately put him on the defensive.

[CarsonsMom 9]

Almost everyone I shared my WL surgery decision have been very supportive, except for the 1 person I thought would be happy that I was working towards getting myself healthy, my father. He says he's supportive, but asks me if I'm sure I want to do this or he just doesn't talk about it at all. I'm a grown adult with a husband, son, daughter-in-law and 2 beautiful grandsons. I think I can make my own decisions now!!!

[wwboy 141]

I ran into several people who gave me grief about the very concept of me losing weight...I felt as though my decision somehow confronted them or threatened them somehow. It's weird. I guess for some people weight has a huge impact on social standing...if I lose weight then you are forced to think about me differently and therefore yourself differently.

Not fun. But I felt like inevitable. Don't let it derail you if you feel this track is your best decision now.

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