Question about recovery/care at home

[RNYDawn 160]

Hi everyone! My surgery date is set for 2/17. Unfortunately, one of my husband's Marine friends passed away and they (Marines) are meeting up for a memorial service three days after my surgery....two states away. My parents had already planned to come down to stay with us and help with our two kids (2 and 5 years old) so I think I'll be fine if he goes to the memorial service. If it were anything else, I know he wouldn't even think of going away, but considering the circumstances, I think he should go.

The hospital where I'm having surgery is about an hour from me so I may have to find someone to pick me up and bring me home (since my parents will be with my kids) - but other than that, I think I'll be fine. He is hesitating to go to the memorial since it's likely that I'll still be in the hospital when he has to leave.

Any thoughts on this? What would you do? Ask him to stay or encourage him to go?

[dhrguru 1,238]

Encourage him to go. Would one of your parents be able to get you from the hospital while the other watches the kids?

[jj7481 363]

He should go. If you've got someone helping with the kids and lifting you'll be fine. Like suggested above, perhaps having one parent come pick you up while the other stays with our children.

[Katherinedj 12]

I would encourage him to go. If you have help from your parents, then you should do fine. As suggested before, if one of your parents could pick you up, then you would be all set. I would ask them to bring a small pillow so you can hold it on your tummy to help with the bumps since you have an hour trip home.

[RNYDawn 160]

Thanks you guys. My dad takes pain medicine so he can't drive me or stay alone with the kids (he just doesn't have the energy) but I have some friends I think (hope?) would pick me up