Losing friends...

[blondecatty 0]

Good for you Amy. I am proud of you.

Losing weight and losing "friends" is sadly well documented.

It is hurtful that a "friend" sees no reason to Celebrate your journey.

We are here for you!

[NanaRenan 0]

Foot note...

I am ending the relationship with my friend, but not due to my lapband.

A sad story: the other day I was at the mall with my friend who is overweight and her daughter is 400 pounds + ( I only mention this because I think it is important to the story...) All three of us were walking out of the mall, and this thin women was walk pasted us walking into the mall. My friend's daughter yelled to the thin women, "How is the anorexia going? Is it working out for ya?" The thin women had not done anything to provoke this comment. She had not stared. glared, or paid any attention to us. Then my friend started laughing like a bully laughs at this poor women's expense. I so angry at my friend. If the table had been reversed and the thin women had made a comment to my friend and her daughter I would have stood up for them like nobodies business. So, I did the same for the thin woman. I spun around and said in a firm voice, "what are you guys doing? That was so called for, and mean!" To which the daughter replied, "Oh, like you weren't thinking it." and then my friend chimmed in, "Yeah." Right then and there I knew it was over. I would never tolerate someone belittling a person who was overweight, but it goes both ways. Maybe some people would disagree with me, but my morals say, "this is not right, and way wrong." So I am the biggest loser I haven't even started dieting yet and I lost over 700 pounds and I feel so much better!

Good for you, Amy, for calling them on their misbehavior.

You can't fight ugly with ugly...and especially at someone who didn't even hurt you. These women sound like really hurting people who are using their extra pounds to keep those fires of pain burning, instead of letting go of it.

Bitterness is a cancer that poisons the container that holds it, not the object at which it is directed.