New here! Getting my surgery date Friday!

[ashleighmei 0]

Hey all!

New to this forum but thought I'd reach out. I'm going to see my surgeon on Friday for my Pre-op visit and surgery date, which will most likely be in February. I'm super excited (a little nervous) and looking forward to getting healthy so I can be active with my 1 year old son.

I have a little bit of a unique situation, my husband is also getting sleeved. He's a little behind me because he hasn't been sticking to his plan and actually gained weight between his fifth and sixth appointment and the surgeon decided that he would not operate on my husband until he proves that he is taking this seriously.

Ever since my husband got the news that he would have to wait and we wouldn't be sleeved around the same time, he has gotten kind of sour towards me about my surgery and making jealous comments about the fact that I'm going to be scheduled and he has to wait.

Is anyone else going through opposition or negativity from their spouses or significant others?

[SesaAlegria 12]

Hi!

I don't have a spouse that is souring my experience, but I wish he'd consider the surgery as well. He said he will watch what happens with me and then maybe do it. He is planning on trying to lose weight when I am, so that's good.

Good luck with your appointment Friday! I just got mine Monday (its on the 25th), and I'm still having a hard time thinking about anything else than REALLY starting this whole thing!

[jboys83 17]

Thats great you both decided on doing this together! My hisband thought about it but declined since it really doesn't take much for him to drop weight. However I would just continue to encourage him and help. You know some guys dont like to ask for help. They show it in weird ways that theu do need it good luck!

[ashleighmei 0]

Thank you both for the encouraging words! The anticipation and excitement is too much to handle! After battling my weight my whole life (I'm 30 now), I'm ready for a new chapter. I will keep encouraging hubs and try not to get too sensitive to his comments. Men don't always know how to express their feelings! Looking forward to updates from you both after surgery!