VDB 800 Posted December 23, 2015 OK, My guy thing has been kicking in. I just hit 8 months out from by-pass surgery, I have lost over 100#, but to my competitive nature, it is not enough. I look at other's bigger losses, and feel inadequate. I know this is stupid, but it is the way I am. So, to myself -- CUT IT OUT! It should be enough that my diabetes, which had been out of control even with lots of effort, is 90% better. Off all blood pressure meds, after 40 years on. Blood fats best in 45 years, cholesterol is low! Wow. Truly severe crippling edema in legs and feet. Gone! Mobility up -- can now ride my bicycle for the first time in 30+ years. (funny thing, had kept my old great bike all these years, moving it with me all over the country, I find it is now an antique). Waist from 56 to 42. From 4xl shirts to XL. Now get all my clothes on EBAY (Men, try it -- very good, very inexpensive stuff as men's clothing has low resale value on EBAY) which is great since I have gone through so many wardrobes. But no, I get all worried about being a slacker. My PA at Bariatric (saw last week) is happy. Testosterone poisoning, I guess. I will work on it, I promise. 70 pounds to go. Thanks for listening. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
James Marusek 5,244 Posted December 23, 2015 Congratulations on your weigh loss thus far. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Inner Surfer Girl 12,015 Posted December 23, 2015 Congratulations! Let your competitiveness help you be the most awesome you that you can be. You don't have to compete with anyone else to be awesome! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
snickysnack78 131 Posted December 23, 2015 I don't think its completely a testosterone thing. I am feeling the same way, I need to lose more, even though I have come so far already Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OKCPirate 5,323 Posted December 24, 2015 Competitiveness is a blessing and a curse, or in our better natures a tool. But if the only tool you have is a hammer, you will tend to see every problem as a nail. So they key is to channel the energy to maximum advantage. That can only be done by mindfully determining goals that work for you. I would suggest that you turn from scale victories to NSV's like biking etc. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jane13 2,256 Posted December 24, 2015 I feel the same way when I see someone who has roughly the same stats and has hit milestones that I haven't I get that competitive urge. Its hard, but it can be a good thing or a curse like OKC said. Don't let it rule your WLS path Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fernandfj 469 Posted December 24, 2015 I know exactly how you feel! I finally had to stop myself from looking at other;s stats and focusing on how far I've come. Also, the suggestion above about NSVs is dead on. The numbers don't mean as much as dropping 14 pant sizes and 4 shirt sizes! That is an incredible accomplishment. Even more impressive are the health benefits you list. You are kicking butt, my friend! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VDB 800 Posted December 24, 2015 Congratulations on your weigh loss thus far. Thanks, James! Merry Christmas, love your blog and writing, very helpful to us newbies. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites