Why we fail to continue succeeding:

[sharowna 6]

You are so welcome. Too bad you are in NH. Iam a very good listener and a great believer in everyday accomplishments whether mental or physical ( the latter not so much...........lol) I had GBS in 2006. Higher weight 311 lowest 187. In stating so, current weight bounces from 230 - 235 I seem to be stuck, but just can't be at peace with this weight gain. However my scale says "just live with this and move on" ! So hard headed! (and italian to boot!) Such is life. Love this site and just so happy for some that have made their goal above and beyond. Encouragement abounds!! Keep the posts coming! Thanks, Sharowna

[winklie 518]

@@sharowna

I would, if not inappropriate, to suggest, incorporating the Aggregation of Marginal Gains into your life. It's just 1% at a time, but it adds up. Read the link a couple posts above, about Team Sky and what they were able to accomplish 1% at a time. It is a lifestyle change, but a very positive one. If you really want to chance, this is a fairly easy way to do so and the results over time and unimaginable. Oh and us Italians gotta stick together!

Link here

Edited December 29, 2015 by winklie

[sharowna 6]

Thanks again and yes I did read again. Worth trying!!

[winklie 518]

@@sharowna

I found the key was to apply it to everything. Like when I measure out ingredients for a recipe, I am always at least 1% under. 1% less cream in my am coffee. I leave the last bite of every meal on the plate. I walk in right angles, no diagonal walking. Every little bit adds up. When I walk home, I do a lap around my block before I go in my house. Just little things that add up to amazing results. lol I sound like a fanboi.

[Kathy Coop 193]

I know a lot of people like you. Newbies who swear up and down they will follow every rule. Who go gun ho into the possess. The ones who Jump into and swear by cross fit and a new pure life. They are usually the ones who fall the hardest.

You can read and do research and you can post about it but wait. Just wait. I challenge you to come back to this post in 2 years. After you have learned your body and you have made your mistakes again... And again lol

This is not meant to be mean. I love your spirit. But you are at the start of your journey. The glory days. You have not felt with the stalls, the deficiencies, the hair loss, the hanging skin ( though it has been comical hearing about your ass).

This is not a sprint. It is a marathon. Slow down rabbit. The turtle wins, every time!!

[winklie 518]

@@Kathy Coop

And in one fell swoop my desire to post on these boards is gone. Well done. Oh and I have dealt with stall(s) and have hanging skin, but I guess I am do not meet your requirements as a "veteran" unless of course you mean from the military, in which case you are sadly mistaken.

So well done, one less poster to worry about. I have better things to do than to respond to negative critics who apparently know everything as they have been a board warrior for a longer time than I.

All I ever tried to do here was to motivate people and share my personal experiences as a guide or to help, I can clearly see that this is counterproductive. I never laid any claim to being a "super weight loss expert" however you seem to have labeled me as such.

Goodbye

[Kathy Coop 193]

Well that is a serious over reaction my friend. My grandfather, my father, my cousins, my husband all Navy so no need to suggest I am not respectful of our armed services. I am just trying to prepare you for real life. You are 2 months out. Slow down. Learn to live with your new stomach and take every persons views good and bad to heart because we have been there. I hope you stay. It is a hard road with no support system

[jess9395 5,449]

I know a lot of people like you. Newbies who swear up and down they will follow every rule. Who go gun ho into the possess. The ones who Jump into and swear by cross fit and a new pure life. They are usually the ones who fall the hardest.

You can read and do research and you can post about it but wait. Just wait. I challenge you to come back to this post in 2 years. After you have learned your body and you have made your mistakes again... And again lol

This is not meant to be mean. I love your spirit. But you are at the start of your journey. The glory days. You have not felt with the stalls, the deficiencies, the hair loss, the hanging skin ( though it has been comical hearing about your ass).

This is not a sprint. It is a marathon. Slow down rabbit. The turtle wins, every time!!

Wow, that's harsh! I am two years out--been at goal for over a year. Had my sagging skin removed by plastics. Lost a ton of hair and had it grow back in. I think what he has to say is great! I can take away some lessons from it as well as any newbie. That's what I like about these boards, we can all learn from each other.

Now if he'd been one of those people less than six months out spouting one "truth" and slamming those who disagree I would feel differently, but he merely posted a "this is something that works for me, your mileage may vary" and even said "I'm no doctor.."

Thank you for the post! Please don't stop!

[winklie 518]

@@Kathy Coop

I've been thinking, and after I decided to come back here, and read your follow-up, a couple things occurred to me. Yeah yeah your family are vets, and glad to have them as company, but you, sadly are not. You are at the least a very poor writer who's posts exude a sense of "I am better than you, look at how much I weight and look what I have been through!" That and a dollar will get you a cheap cup of coffee. I see from your whopping post count that you are always posting helpful comments here (lol 12) and your sterling reputation (3) means that the folks who read those golden nuggets of information really do like you. NOT.

In a public forum you attacked me, a safe place as it were where I do not have to worry about attack. Good job being the first hag to come along and ruin a nice place to post.

My posts are intended to be humorous whenever possible, I find that if people are laughing, then they keep reading, and allow whatever it is I am saying to get through.

No I am not two years out, but in 18 months I will be. And you know what the difference is: I'll still be here sharing my journey with these wonderful people, while you will still be a miserable person. I would hate to have to live around you.

What could you possibly have hoped to accomplish by attacking me? Here are two good examples what should be happening, first, I am exercising my 1st amendment rights by posting here. You similarly have the right to NEVER READ ONE OF MY POSTS AGAIN. Really, forget I exist. I made a choice, 1.5 years ago to live a different kind of lifestyle, yeah almost 2 years ago. Oh wait, but I am a noob! I gave up sugar nearly 2 years ago, along with corn and processed foods etc. Long before I had surgery.

You judge me, and that is wrong. Essentially you are a troll. And as a policy of mine I do not feed trolls. This will be my last post regarding you. Personally I don't care what you have done, do or will do. Live, die, whatever. Just don't be stupid enough to come after me again. I've been posting in forums and dealing with trolls like you for well over a decade. This is the nicest I can possibly be, further attacks will cause my tone to change in a dramatic fashion. So go take your selfie, put on your size 4 dress, and if you should forget to look both ways while crossing the street, I will personally nominate you for a Darwin award.

Edited December 30, 2015 by winklie

[winklie 518]

@jess9395 Thanks for the kind words, early morning, no coffee, and attacked by a troll, I responded poorly. I fired back as nicely as I could, as I don't really want to get into a flame war. But these forums mean enough to me, that I will go to war if need be. All I ever wanted to do was help, and I am still befuddled as to how that would lead to me getting flamed.

[sharowna 6]

woo who!!!

[Dar200 285]

Please don't ever leave, Winklie. You have encouraged me in so many ways, you have no idea. I reread the 1% article and think it is a great way to start the new year. I've gotta make that list to start. Great idea. See, you've helped one person.

[Dar200 285]

Some people just gotta flame. Has nothing to do with you.

[goblue9280 481]

@@winklie Love reading your posts, brotha! Keep that positive attitude going. Who knows what will happen in two years, but I damn sure would put my money on someone with your attitude being at goal weight in 2+ years.

For me, my focus right now is getting my sh*& together with regards to diet. I'm a firm believer in health being 90% what you put in your body and 10% working out. My bariatric surgeon has gone full in on promoting a vegan (or as much vegan as you can handle) diet as the best way to achieve and maintain goal weight for both WLS patients and the general population. My hope is that I can lay the foundation now during my honeymoon phase for the diet that will carry me on to my goal weight and the next 45+ years of my life.

[winklie 518]

@sharowna@Dar200@goblue9280

I am a bit choked up. Today started in the toilet, however it quickly recovered. All I ever set out to do is to share what I have learned and make difficult to talk about topics amusing yet informative. Why that witch decided to flame me is unknown. But she has been revealed as a troll and as such I expect her to go away. As for meeting my goal weight, I'll do it within 6 months. God willing. I am not far now and the weight is coming off very quickly, to the tune of 4-6 pounds a week. Once winter in NH is over and I can really ramp up my outdoor exercise time, I expect things to go faster. I did make a new observation this week. It feels like the chain that has me tied to the scale has been removed. I told me therapist yesterday I am not as concerned with what the scale say as what the mirror says. I think that is a better way to view things. I'll be happy not so much when the scale says a certain number, but when I look in the mirror and am happy with what I see.

Thank you all for your support and I wish you all a Very Happy New Years!!