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good for you to make the decision to walk away...I agree with everyone else on this post--your BFF was full of crap and was just looking for a way to cheat. Just like someone else mentioned above, if you and the BFF cannot have a conversation in front of his wife, then it's probably inappropriate. And if you have to ask yourself if a conversation or behavior is inappropriate, then it probably is. I don't know you but I do know that you deserve so much more than what the BFF can offer you at this time.

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I just want to say THANK YOU for being a decent woman and following "girl code". I'm amazed at women who will gladly and openly flirt with men they know are married. They use it as an ego boost.

First, never flirt with a married man. That's wrong. Second, if a married man flirts with you, woman up and call that cheater out on it! It probably won't change him but at least you will make your moral standards clear. I threatened to call a man's wife once when he wouldn't stop making comments despite my repeated, very clear warnings. I guess he liked mean girls. I've also straight up called jerks out on speaking abusively to their wives too. Sorry, I hate cheaters and abusers. It makes me so damn angry.

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He is making you uncomfortable and you feel that he is acting inappropriately. Keep your boundaries and count your blessings... you could be his wife and he would likely do the same. They make it personal, and declare it to be so (repeatedly), but its not; it is a problem with them. Don't get stuck with a problem guy.

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My best friend saved my life. Because of him I lost over 100 lbs, I was in an awful relationship and eating myself to death. He was also married, once I started "dating" he got weird. He was in my life for a season and a reason. I still miss him at times, but after I moved on I was happier. He is still on my instagram, and I follow him. We don't comment or "like" each others post. I think we both realized we loved each other because we helped each other through some incredibly hard times, but there is a point you have to love them from afar. My current SO, I would have never met or had the courage to even speak to if it wasn't for him. And he is a man he truly loves me and adores me. My ex BFF, I enameled him and thanked him for all the good things he brought into my life and I wished him well. He is still slightly upset, and I think feels like he was "dumped" but it was never a physically intimate relationship. Saying Goodbye will do you a world of good, but you will have a little heart break and he will always have a little piece of your heart.

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Sounds like he's looking to have a quick fling. Just remember, he's doing this behind her back, he has apparently done this before (judging by how easy it is for him) and will do it again and again, no matter who he is with. Be cautious.

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GIrl, same boat.

I'd run. I'm distancing myself from my bff too. It sucks... but... sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is walk away.

He told me he loved me 3 days before his wedding... and I watched him marry someone else. That was fun =/

Protect yourself, and most importantly protect your heart.

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Run and run fast girl, he has bad intentions very clearly. Your on a process of improving yourself and you definitely do not want to lower yourself and become the "other woman". From the story you told he seemed to marry her because he felt like he had too. It's a really sad situation and you don't want to be caught up in that.

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If he's going to cheat on her, he's probably going to cheat on you also. The baby complicated things bc there's that bond. You'd feel guilty with yourself if he left his wife and baby for you. Don't let him put you in that position.



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