Does anyone feel guilty about this?

[BetsyB 9]

I was very lucky to find that everyone I told was and has been remarkably supportive. Really, I think most were relieved for me. In that regard, I have had a wonderful experience.

I did struggle with some guilt from within---and I wonder if that's not what you're really struggling with.

It helps when people around us are supportive, but they can't really manage our feelings--those come from us.

Guilt is kind of a wasted emotion. I think it's realistic to regret that it's come to pass that we require surgery. However, once we've acknowledged that it does, in fact, represent a great solution to a very real problem, there's no need for guilt. Move forward joyfully--truly. This will be such a gift to you. Don't allow your joy to be colored by an emotion that serves no function.

[ardelia 41]

I would not feel guilty about this, but I do not really have many close friends that I would tell about this. I plan only to tell one person and he is sworn to silence.

If I didn't need someone to drive me home after surgery, quite frankly, I'd not tell anyone! It is no one's business but mine.

[nomorejellybelly 77]

I say go for it! My husband is supportive and apparently the other couple people I've told are also. I've only told my husband, father, sister and a good old friend. I don't really want to tell anyone else. I just want them to think I started losing weight. I don't want to admit that I can't do this by myself, even though I have a coupld of medical conditions that make it extremely difficult to lose weight. I am doing this for my health and so I'll be happier about myself.