It's time

[Staples87 1]

So I want to share my whole story as well as post my progress here. I guess after having issues with my weight for so long it's time to be honest as to why and how I get here.

JUST A KID ages 10-16

I have always been a bigger person as a child by the time I was in 5th grade I already weighed 100 pounds, I know this because at a party with friends one of my friends said I had a Dream we all went out to party, and Shanqiua u we're skinny in my dream, that hurt. I become queen of disappearing to advoid ppl picking on me. It didn't always work I still got called fat, the ugly sister and if you were small you would be pretty. I learned to live in a made up world to not deal with reality. I would read a lot and made myself a character in my book. This lasted till 14 when I had my first kiss, that lead to first sexual experience than a baby. So adding to my issues I made myself a teen mom. It was very depressing. I balloon to 280@16 and stay this for a long time. I was in a bad space in my life.

Teen Years age16-21

With a baby I still managed to excel in school graduating with honors and divorcing my parents so I could be my own legal guardian. I learned early on that what I did with my life was my choice, and I felt I could not control my weight so I control my life by ensuring I wasn't another teen mom who did nothing with her life. Went to school, college for BA , Grad school for MSW. But I was making bad men and food choices and I think the men choices I made was to please them because I believed no one would want me.

THE HEALTH ISSUES age 19-25

I was a dibetic and didn't know it. I was 19 when I lost a ton of weight I went from 280 to 200 in three months, I was thristy all the time pee smelled like fruit and I was lossing my vision. I thought I was lossing weight because I had changed eating habits and started working out, this help but it wasn't the only reason I was lossing. I was so happy about the Weight lost that I didn't bother to go to a doctor till I could not feel my leg...

This scared me went in and sugars we're 400. I was put on insulin, which cause the new found weight lost to stop, so I stop taking the insulin dumb yes. I did this back and forward with the medication for a long time till my doctor told me I did not care about my life, I did care but was so scared of going back to 280. I change eating habits for good and started working out which allowed me to stay between 200-210

MEDICATION age 25-26

I started my medication the insulin and did not get back to 280 but was hovering BTW 220 for a while. I was in a very toxic relationship and more drama than ever food and alcohol become my safe haven. After a DV situation with my now ex husband I decided to take my life back and I joined weight watchers, and the gym, my doctor put me on a diet pill as we'll . It worked wonders getting my weight to 185 lowest I have ever been since 16, with this new found confidence life was good but I started not taking the meds again plus the pill was giving me racing heart, depressing thoughts all the side effects. Stop the pill gained all the weight back and than some getting to 215.

NEW START age 27-28

At this point I had two kids hated where I lived and was feeling like **** about my life, I took the 3k I saved packed my car and moved from MI to TX with my kids. Found a new doctor got back on my meds and hit the gym and boxing. Because of the yoyo diet, refusing to get on the diet pill again I was not lossing weight like before . My doctor talked to me about the wls and I was not on board i was 5'1 215 and was thinking im not that big, but reality was I was that big and knew I had to do something especially to get my sugars under control..i talk to my therpist about it and she was supportive. We went over the pros and cons as well as how relationships would be if I did go through with this. (We had been working through my relationships with ppl due to poor relationships with family, friends and men back home). After the talk and research I went in for a seminar.

SEMINAR age 28

Went on 8/25/2015

Started process the following week. I did not like the first surgeron I went to and switch on 10/1/2015. Here is how the progress went:

10/7 Appointment met with surgeon, Nut(psy evaluation done that day), dietien. Was given requirements from doctor which was:

Don't gain weight 216

Keep sugars below 150

10/12

Went to get blood work done

Xrays done

My insurance required six month diet, but I already met the requirements for this from past diets (the pill and weight watchers)

11/7 submited to insurance

11/8 approved

11/18- pre opt appointment (weight 213)

11/23 surgery date @10am

Edited November 21, 2015 by Staples87

[Staples87 1]

I will say I'm not in a DV relationship anymore, me and my two kids are happy in TX. I will not have a relationship because I know I'm not ready and really focusing on my relationship with my two kids and God. I still see my therapist for support. Life is much better now. The move was the biggest thing I ever did and this surgery is the next. I'm ready to have my sugars under control without meds.

[Cervidae 2,389]

I have had some similar experiences to you, though I am at a much higher weight. You should be so incredibly proud of yourself for pulling through the things you've made it through. You're only headed up from here. Take care, and keep us posted. You'll do just fine.

[Djmohr 6,965]

@@Staples87

Congratulations on taking the steps to get healthy. You are very young and have you're whole life ahead of you.

I too was a teen Mom, married with two kids by the time I was 19. All the responsibility without the time to enjoy childhood ourselves.

I wish the very best for you and your family and I am glad you have chosen to do something now while you are so young and have not caused a lot of damage to your body yet. Staying heavy for too long really is very damaging.

Good luck and keep us posted on your progress.

Which surgery are you moving forward with?

[Staples87 1]

Thank You for y'all encouraging words. I will be having the RNY.The doctor stated this would be best because of the diabetes.

[Staples87 1]

Today is day one post opt. I had surgery on Monday and felt like crap after it.once they took the tube out my nose I started to feel better. I have been walking and ate a little broth, not much. I'm still on pain meds but look forward to be out of the hospital Wed.

[Janie80 2]

Things will get easier Keep us posted!

[hildaruiz29 16]

Thank you for sharing your inspirational story! Wishing you the best!

[Staples87 1]

So far I'm 7 days out and my back hurts so bad. I don't regret this, but I find myself wondering if I made the best choice. I am working on me which is so new working and doing what is best for me. This is a new journey that I'm excited about to do and just want the best outcome.