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Jasley, I was so looking for someone like you! From the beginning, I decided that I did not want to tell anyone. I was proud of my choice and knew it would be my answer, but I was too embarrassed to admit I did not have the desire to complete the weight loss process without help. I needed that "rope", the tool, to hang on to and keep me moving. I haven't told anyone and don't plan to tell anyone. It is my choice, both the weight loss and the telling. The funny thing is that I had the surgery on September 11, 2015, I have lost 30 pounds, but no one has noticed! Maybe I really am invisible :)

Like everyone, I had all the uncomfortable stuff right after surgery, but it is all gone now and I am so happy. I plan to tell someone, if they ever notice, that I am working hard at weight loss, which is true.

Hello My1way - you found me! LOL Doesn't it suck that you take this huge step, you lose some weight and no one gives you the pat on the back you not only deserve but are secretly craving? Give them time to notice and you will get all the right attention. I don't know how old you are, but at my age we're all invisible. The thin ones, the fluffy ones, all of us. Oh well, maybe not such a bad thing. We can applaud ourselves while we slip under the radar of everyone else. I wish you continued success and I send you **applause** and accolades!!

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