I'm 3 wks post-op and had a beer

[Vanessers2011 3]

I'm 3 weeks post-op, I have followed my diet as directed for the most part, but on average I get sick once a day.

Last night my husband insisted on taking me out with his friends/co-workers. I was very hesitant but still went, it was at a brewery and my husband ordered me a beer, he said just hold it so that I looks like you are drinking. I couldn't contain my self and felt awkward and stupid for not drinking while everyone else was staring at me holding a full glass. I began taking little sips and my stomach began to grumble, I didn't feel drunk like I had heard from many people that had experienced very low alcohol tolerance after surgery. I finished my drink, didn't feel sick at all, but I didn't want to stay any longer as I felt awkward and out of place. I left while everyone else -Including my hubby- went to another bar. I cried the entire way home. I was angry at my self for putting my self in that situation and for possible jeopardizing my recovery. When I got home I ate some Soup and 5 minutes later I was in the bathroom throwing up. I'm so upset and worry that I may have done more damage than I know, but also for allowing myself to give in to peer pressure and for trying to fit in with a crowd of people that I really didn't care for -except my husband, with whom I'm upset now for making me go- At the end of the day I'm a grown woman and I should be able to make better choices.

Has anyone had alcohol too soon? or had a bad experience to share?

[liannatx 897]

Next time ask for diet sprite in a martini glass with an olive or twist... the bartender will be happy to comply and no one will question it.

[Dub 9,922]

So your husband knows you are 3 weeks out from VSG surgery.....throwing up once a day.......and takes you to a brewery and gets you a beer to "sit there" with ????????

Oh yeah.....you should flip the script on him and pull some type of ghost pepper chili stunt and sneak it into his food.

Once he recovers from the heat/pain/gastric torment.......tell him that was thanks for dragging you through the same.

[Vanessers2011 3]

Dub, You are very clever, and yes I'm mad at my husband for putting me in that situation, but more mad at myself because I'm old enough to know better and shouldn't have gone out in the first place. Next time -if there is a next time- I will follow

liannatx advice and order something that resembles a "real drink" although I still wouldn't know what to order at a brewery...hmmm, maybe I'll just stay away from breweries

[SuperDave 1,115]

Order iced tea, order Water, order whatever you want. Who cares if you are drinking alcohol or not? That is absolutely nobody's business but your own.

[Sharon1964 2,530]

Your husband needs a big ol' whack upside the head with the clue-by-four. If that doesn't do it, catch him again on the backswing.

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

Next time ask for diet sprite in a martini glass with an olive or twist... the bartender will be happy to comply and no one will question it.

I wouldn't do carbonation of any kind.

Better yet, drink Water. You would be surprised how many people drink Water at bars. You can get it with a twist of lemon or lime if you like.

Edited: I meant to quote @@SuperDave about ordering, but I agree with the above, too.

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

Your husband needs a big ol' whack upside the head with the clue-by-four. If that doesn't do it, catch him again on the backswing.

Absolutely!

It amazes me how many posts I see about people worried about what other people think about their food or drink choices. I especially see this with the younger folks.

Maybe it's because I am old and jaded, but who really cares what I choose to eat or drink?

[Amelia Bedelia 39]

You could also volunteer to be the DD. Built in reason not to drink, but you could still go and have fun.

[failmenot 16]

Went to a birthday dinner right at my 3 week post op mark ate nothing ordered ice tea and Water anyone that asked I said I'm driving tonight so no drinking for me ????

[Mistie 201]

Or just say you choose not to drink. Nobodies business. I have had to take blood thinners for 4 years due to a random episode of PE which almost killed me. I cannot drink alcohol, as it thins my blood. Sometimes people ask, most of the time not. If they do, if I know them, I'll usually remind them I'm on blood thinners. If not, sometimes I'll tell them, sometimes I'll just say I prefer Water or whatever. I've found its no big deal. Why would people look at you oddly for not drinking? I've never had anyone care.

[Cookie54 19]

Remember that drinking is a choice and never a requirement. You are the one to make the choice.

[lovingdavid 119]

Sorry to hear you experience this but then again it was your choice to drink it or not. Next time just get Water and it's way to early to drink alcohol. Hopefully you are not feeling sick anymore.

[2goldengirl 2,076]

Just for future reference, a martini glass with Water and two olives looks exactly like the real thing. And anyone who thinks it's up to them to determine whether you ought to be drinking or eating anything needs to get a life.

[BLERDgirl 6,417]

You've gotten a lot of good advice. Here's my concern:

1. You are 3 weeks out from surgery. Still regularly throwing up and your husband a) takes you out and orders you a beer. That's not only sabotage, that's a bit passive aggressive behavior.

2. You go along with this and then drink said beer. That's self sabotage.

Sure one beer may not hurt you, but it's setting the stage for a pattern of one offs that can impede your success. Ask yourself will your husband support your weight loss efforts or will he constantly be tempting you and/or putting you in situations that may challenge your resolve? How will you react? If you don't deal with this now it will be a bite of cake, a plate of Pasta and on and on.