NeeD heLp! Please......Advice

[Terra B 53]

I appreciate any advice that anyone has!

I got my approval yesterday. If it was up to me, I would have this surgery tomorrow. I really want to get it behind me so I can focus on recovery and the rest of my life becoming healthy.

My husband wants me to wait until after the holidays. We have friends and family coming out that we haven't seen in years and he is afraid that if I have surgery at the beginning of Dec. then while everyone is here, he thinks something will go wrong and then I will end up in the hospital and ruin the holidays.

I know everyone is different. I know that recovery time is different for everyone and complications happen.

I need some outside insight, I don't want to talk to my family, I am not telling anyone about my surgery yet. I haven't decided who I can count on and who I can't.

Help, PLEASE!

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

Congratulations on your approval. I certainly understand your being ready to get it over with.

It is very hard to predict how your recovery will go. Everyone's experience is different.

Personally, I had a great recovery with minimal pain and no complications and would have been fine spending time with family a couple of weeks after surgery.

I know many people are trying to get their surgery before the end of year, especially if they have met their insurance deductible for the year.

[Babbs 14,680]

I was so ready to have the surgery, if they said it was going to be done the week of Christmas, I would have done it no question. But that's just me. You do what you feel more comfortable with. Also, they may not give you much of a choice as to when you schedule surgery. My surgeon just happened by some miracle to have an opening a week after I got approved, and I know if I balked and didn't take that opening it would have been another 6 weeks before they could have gotten me in for surgery.

[Terra B 53]

OMgosh! ISG!!! You are spot on! Dah! I didn't think of that! I just told that to my hubby and told him it would cost more if we wait til next year, and he was like OooooHHHHhhhh! haha.

Thank you so much! That was exactly what I needed to remind me!

Babbs, I agree! I don't care who is coming or when, I have taken care of everyone up til now, it's my turn! I want to be healthy!

Thank you so much, ladies!

[Ashlegal 525]

All I can add is this "don't let your husband's (or anyone's) feelings navigate your future."

It will be the brand new start, to a brand new year and by this time next year you'll look back and think "I am so glad I did it when I did!"

[Lexigurl82 160]

congrats on your approval I made the decision to have my surgery on 12/2. I could have had the surgery weeks ago but I wanted to get past the Thanksgiving holiday and prepare myself financially. Do what you think is best. If you want to have the surgery now, I say go for it. Just like others have mentioned, everyone's recovery process will be different. Surround yourself with positive thinking and you'll be fine.

[Terra B 53]

Thank you so much for your responses! I appreciate them so much!