Talking myself out of surgery

[Kindle 8,667]

"What if I fail" mainly goes through my head.

I've been on this pre pre op diet since September and was doing really well, lost 13 lbs and this weekend I slipped up due to stress and I'm afraid I'll just continue to slip up.

We're all human. We all slip up. Then you get back up and move on. We are often brainwashed with the "all or nothing" mentality from a lifetime of yo yo dieting. This new life is not like any other "diet" I've been on. It's a lifestyle. It's choices. And every day is a new opportunity to do it "right". The cheese Danish I had for Breakfast yesterday doesn't make me a failure. Just human. And today I had an egg with salsa for Breakfast. New day. New choices.

There will still be stresses to deal with, and learning new coping mechanisms is vital to your long term success. So take as much time as you need to prepare for the mental games that await. Don't feel pressured into surgery until you are ready.

[Fat2Phat2016 541]

I am scared of thought of possibly failing. But what scares me more is what happens if I don't try and stay obese. How long before I have a heart attack? How old will I live to be if I don't have this surgery?

Those thoughts are what made me make up my mind to preceed with the surgery

[Brandy Wine 24]

I wish you all the best. I am one week after you. Please keep in touch. We will do great!!!

@@HopeandAgony

Will definitely keep in touch!!!

Edited November 7, 2015 by brandylc

[The Candidate 3,215]

We were told our approval would be good for a year. There are several in my graduating class who have yet to have surgery. I would check with your program and see if they have the same option. That way it would give you a proper amount of time to think it over without losing the time and effort you've already invested. Best of luck whatever you decide!

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

About perfectionism and all-or-nothing thinking and letting worry about failure paralyze us ...

... you may wish to read this worthwhile piece on Wikipedia about these very issues:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Perfectionism_(psychology)

[BLERDgirl 6,417]

"What if I fail" mainly goes through my head.

I've been on this pre pre op diet since September and was doing really well, lost 13 lbs and this weekend I slipped up due to stress and I'm afraid I'll just continue to slip up.

Here's your chance to change that habit. You can see that you slipped up & identify that it was due to stress. So make that "what if" a " what could I do instead?" Try to come up with 2 - 3 options. Put them in your phone, write them on your mirror, stick them on the fridge. The next stressful event, look at them and choose one. That's how you change behaviors

[Tssiemer1 549]

I kind of want to go ahead and start my pre op liquid diet so when they call with my approval I can get scheduled sooner. I know this is what I want and need. But this is what I always do, my husband says I "hold onto stuff too long" and change my mind.

I'm just ready.

Now that I've jumped through the hoops I'm just ready.

[Fat2Phat2016 541]

I kind of want to go ahead and start my pre op liquid diet so when they call with my approval I can get scheduled sooner. I know this is what I want and need. But this is what I always do, my husband says I "hold onto stuff too long" and change my mind.

I'm just ready.

Now that I've jumped through the hoops I'm just ready.

Good for you!!! Keeping you in my thoughts!!

[IncredibleShrinkingMan 437]

You shouldn't be "talking yourself" into it or out of it. This is a very serious move that involves looking at yourself objectively, looking at the facts of your history, and judging for yourself the prospects from others that have gone before you. Once you have made a decision based on those factors, you should not be trying to make up arguments that steer it in any direction...not even as to what procedure you would like to have. If you have reservations based on something in your life, that is perfectly legitimate and needs to be thought over...it does not constitute a mind game and certainly doesn't amount to talking yourself into or out of anything. Best of luck whichever way you go!

[Addawn 81]

Wanna know what the greatest feeling in the world is? Its being able to do anything you want and knowing your not to heavy to do it!! If I could have changed anything, I would have given that gift to myself much sooner. Best of luck on whatever you decide, but you will not regret being able to seize everything life has to offer!