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Day 9 Post VSG, and a little depression



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So, I was never one who was best friends with food; at least the reality is, I never thought I was. I went through life eating because it tasted good, and rewarding myself for accomplishments with good tasting food. I just never ran to food when I didn't feel well, or was sad, or emotional in any way.

That being said, my psychologist who I had seen for a major loss in my life prior to VSG and who also did my psych eval for the VSG surgery, warned me that I would experience some emotions and possibly depression, as I said goodbye to my "bigger life."

I told her that I understood, but that I was never emotionally tied to food so I think it'll be okay.

Then, POST VSG, I felt okay. 2 days went by, everything was fine. a couple of more days, everything is still alright. And then a week approached, and suddenly I felt as if everything in the world was wrong. I hate the weather right now (weather I normally love haha) and I feel like the job Im in pays what I need it to but doesn't make me happy at all, and I dread returning. I guess those are normal feelings but they just sort of came out of no where.

I don't get sad when my husband is eating something I can't next to me, and in many ways I am loving the success I am already seeing by making this choice.

But it is a lifelong choice, and a part of me is feeling minor buyers remorse because tiny reminders of what I have given up pop up here and there. And as we approach the holidays, I am reminded that many of our cultural celebrations are food related. dinner with friends, birthdays with cake and delicious food. Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, etc.

I cried for the first time in a long time today, for no good reason. Had to bring my husband over for a hug and explain how I am feeling to him. I have Disthymia which is sort of a life long mellow depression, but it has always been self managed, and really, as long as I recognized how I felt and why it generally left me alone and I was happy as a clam.

I'll of course be seeing my psychologist again this week, and my doctor in a couple of weeks. I just wanted to know if this is normal, and if some of you experienced something similar?

I guess major life changes of any kind have a certain amount of good stress, and a splash back of bad. Day 9 is winding down, and Day 10 will begin tomorrow.

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I was pretty depressed and cried every day for almost a week. I am a little over 1 month out now and I am much better.. but I'm still not over everything that I was depressed about.. I just don't cry anymore :)

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What you are experiencing is very normal and will pass. You are recovering from major surgery. Your hormones are fluctuating from the decrease in fat. You are probably detoxing from carbs and sugar and possibly caffeine if you didn't stop caffeine before surgery. You are unable to use food to manage your emotions. You are undergoing the stress of a major life change. All of these things are converging. It's no wonder you are experiencing distress.

I am glad to hear you are seeing your therapist. In addition, try your best to get in all of your fluids and Protein. Being dehydrated will only aggravate things and you need both fluids and Protein to heal. Also, if you are able, consider walking outside in the sunlight. It will help.

Best of luck and keep us posted on how you are doing.

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Also, how much weight should I expect to lose from day 1 on pre op diet to say, 1 month post op?

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There is no amount you SHOULD lose. Everyone is different. It depends on your starting weight, age, gender, activity level, metabolism, etc. plus, you are going to be pumped full of fluids while in the hospital and will be swollen.

I highly recommend staying off of the scale during that time. You will get weighed at your doctors appointments which is plenty early out. Otherwise you will drive yourself crazy.

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I cry for every little thing..and now have anxiety that i feel will never go away, and this all started 3weeks out..they say its normal but it feels like hell when your in the storm, i steady looking for someone to give me a timeframe on when this ends..

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What you are experiencing is very normal and will pass. You are recovering from major surgery. Your hormones are fluctuating from the decrease in fat. You are probably detoxing from carbs and sugar and possibly caffeine if you didn't stop caffeine before surgery. You are unable to use food to manage your emotions. You are undergoing the stress of a major life change. All of these things are converging. It's no wonder you are experiencing distress.

I am glad to hear you are seeing your therapist. In addition, try your best to get in all of your fluids and Protein. Being dehydrated will only aggravate things and you need both fluids and Protein to heal. Also, if you are able, consider walking outside in the sunlight. It will help.

Best of luck and keep us posted on how you are doing.

Sounds like me huh

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I'm sorry others feel this way too, but I am glad, on a selfish note, that I am not experiencing this alone.

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I'm sorry others feel this way too, but I am glad, on a selfish note, that I am not experiencing this alone.[/quote

Not at all, i was the same way you were didnt think food was an addiction..so i breezed thru my eval, im seeing now how it played a major part in my life.

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