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I had my sleeve surgery 2/7/13 and I am having trouble with motivation to exercise and eat properly. In fact I have gained 15 lbs since last year. I had my hip replaced and then boom I had a problem losing weight. I started Zumba and went 4 times a week. Then my husband started to require my time. I find when I am frustrated with him I eat things I shouldn't. Help!!!

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Why would you not want to lose the weight? Is there some perceived threat at the end of the rainbow?

Do you want to lose it? Write a list of all the reasons, keeping each narrow and specific. Example: Instead of "To feel good about myself," break it down to all the individual things that will make you feel good about yourself.

I can't guess what it means to say that your husband requires your time. If he's ill and needs care, see about getting someone in a few hours a day to help so that you have some breathing time. If he's acting out his own feelings about your reaching goal, walk away. Don't let him undermine you. Ask point-blank why he's trying to derail you and let him know that his fears are unfounded (unless you meet Gregory Peck reincarnated and run off, in which case no one would blame you).

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You did it once and now you can do it again! You've got this!

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Thanks for the feedback. No my husband isn't sick. He was a truck driver when I had the surgery and wasn't home much. Now he is working local and home everyday. He makes remarks that I believe are just his insecurity getting the best of him.

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