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Schedule to have ds November 23rd and I'm having financial issues. From the time this year has started everything has went wrong, we'll here goes: my family had a $700 decrease in income so we we're evicted from our home. So myself and my children lived with my parents for a month and my husband stayed with a friend. Lucky it wasn't longer we find a place. We did go for a while till June hit . It was my daughter's sweet 16 now we didn't go all out we had a simple cookout . I kinda went overboard with the cake and photographs. So July come and my car got repo than in august my husband lost his job. Well he found one quick but we paid rent weekly so we got behind and we got evicted from there. Now for the past month we have been living in a motel and I just don't know if I will be able to eat properly. I'm sorry for rambling but just need some advice????????????????

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Sooo... just my opinion- I would reschedule the surgery. The stress of the position you are in will make it difficult to focus on caring for yourself.

Also, Protein shakes, Vitamins, etc can be expensive. Do you have a plan for continuing to afford them when money gets tough?

Do you have insurance that is paying for your surgery? I have good insurance but still had to pay 3000.00 for the surgery. That didn't include all the copays and pre op testing.

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Thanks for the advice but I have good insurance, Co pays r paid already and pre testing too. The insurance will cover Vitamins but Protein Shake they don't. Also on top of everything I will be the first person to have this surgery at the hospital not the first person the doctor has done though

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What are you asking?

I feel a great deal of empathy for the financial challenges you and your family are going through. Speaking for myself, the surgery and post op period were quite stressful - I would have had a hard time coping if it had been piled on top of everything you are talking about. I too would consider rescheduling - and here is why. One of the differences between the people that get to goal weight (and maintain) and those that dont is the ability to make big lifestyle/habit changes in those early months post op.

Good luck to you and your family - I hope you are able to get back on your feet soon.

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I hope things improve for you soon, I know how hard financial struggles are.

Personally I think you should wait on the surgery until you are in a more stable position. What you described I'm sure is causing you a lot of emotional stress. Your body will be under a lot of physical stress after the surgery and if you're already so stressed out you might not heal as well.

Also if you can I would try to see if you can go to a different hospital where they have experience with post op bariatric patients

best of luck to you

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I am on a fixed income. I am single with only 2 cats as dependents and I find it necessary to budget every penny. Protein powder and good, nutritious food cost money. I clip coupons and buy on sales to make ends meet. Given your situation and current unstable living situation I would definitely postpone. You really need to be able to completely focus on managing your health for at least the first 6mths. How will you buy food on all liquids? Where will you be able to prepare your meals? Hopefully the new year will find you in better financial shape. I just wouldn't recommend going forward with so much uncertainty.

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Schedule to have ds November 23rd and I'm having financial issues. From the time this year has started everything has went wrong, we'll here goes: my family had a $700 decrease in income so we we're evicted from our home. So myself and my children lived with my parents for a month and my husband stayed with a friend. Lucky it wasn't longer we find a place. We did go for a while till June hit . It was my daughter's sweet 16 now we didn't go all out we had a simple cookout . I kinda went overboard with the cake and photographs. So July come and my car got repo than in august my husband lost his job. Well he found one quick but we paid rent weekly so we got behind and we got evicted from there. Now for the past month we have been living in a motel and I just don't know if I will be able to eat properly. I'm sorry for rambling but just need some advice????????????????

I was thinking of you and wondering how you were. Did you go through with the surgery or postpone it?

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