Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Etiquette of posting in "[opposite sex] Only" forum?



Recommended Posts

Yes, I meant 'not'...

And I've amended my post to reflect such...

Apologies...

And as far as me being "not so bad after all"...

Correct!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Sometimes the discussion is such that it really is more neutral. No one can stop you from lurking. That's the price we pay. I think you asked nicely (thank you very much) and the guy who started the thread should respond.

I'd been back there to add a note saying I'd leave of my own accord and wish everyone well. The next note was from the originator. Without saying it in so many words, he made it known that he'd prefer my absence. Ships in the night.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

It's asked that men not post in female only topics (they are for women only) and females are not to post in male only topics. There have been sensitive bunnies (cough cough men)in the past unfortunately, so that's the way it is!

We do have a forum for both men and women to share more delicate topics here:

http://www.bariatricpal.com/forum/1183-where-venus-and-mars-collide-new/

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'll admit, half the time don't see the designation until I've already opened my fat trap and typed up a response and hit post. I try to be mindful if it's a Guys only thread. Unless both start posting. And it gets fun. Then all bets are off ;)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I've sometimes unknowingly stumbled on a female-only thread (they show up in the trending topics list sometimes with no designation they are women-only). I've found often these end up discussing very female-oriented topics that I am certain females would not want me responding to (and might be less inclined to discuss in a mixed forum).

There have been times I have been sorely tempted, such as when I see guy-bashing or stereotypes of male behavior. But I have decided women have a right to have a place they can vent with other ladies and not expect men to butt in on their conversations.

So I kinda expect women to have the same consideration for men. Maybe a guy has a topic where he wants just male responses, or is very specific to men. Women should respect that need, and not post on those topics.

Posting accidentally is fine, and most people will really be cool about it. But I do think it is a breach of etiquette to do this intentionally or frequently.

Now, as for reading them, just remember all topics are readable by anyone.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

It's asked that men not post in female only topics (they are for women only) and females are not to post in male only topics. There have been sensitive bunnies (cough cough men)in the past unfortunately, so that's the way it is!

We do have a forum for both men and women to share more delicate topics here:

http://www.bariatricpal.com/forum/1183-where-venus-and-mars-collide-new/

But we can still get in and watch....I mean read.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I had to go track down the thread just to see if I could figure out this mysterious word.post-196526-14453778284464_thumb.jpg

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I had to go track down the thread just to see if I could figure out this mysterious word.attachicon.gifImageUploadedByBariatricPal1445377827.622980.jpg

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Duckface

Got to look in the right place

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I had to go track down the thread just to see if I could figure out this mysterious word.attachicon.gifImageUploadedByBariatricPal1445377827.622980.jpg

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Duckface

Got to look in the right place

Speaking of the girls and boys, folks, I hope you've noticed that I didn't want to know about a particular word from the all-boys' topic, believing that it means something ugly. I also hope you've noticed that @@OKCPirate showed the courtesy of asking the originator of the topic to decide on my presence. Notice also, please, that he does not extend that courtesy to me, evidenced by his mounting it in a post in this topic, one which I originated.

What say? Pirate must walk the plank? He's thick as a plank?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Oh, all right, I looked. My expectation was misplaced. It isn't an ugly, demeaning or otherwise irksome description. It's just dumb. I can live with that.

But this doesn't mitigate Pirate's inconsiderateness and disobedience.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

That's a lot of attention being unleashed upon @@OKCPirate there @@WLSResources/ClothingExch

Do you think maybe that's because you loooove him?

Ooooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhhh... Loversssss

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

@@WLSResources/ClothingExch "What say? Pirate must walk the plank? He's thick as a plank?"

Post WLS, getting closer to only being that thick ;-)

But what did I do now?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I have looked for the gender only rooms I guess I can't see them because I only use my phone. I replied to something earlier today and after I got the feeling it was a guys only topic... Oops what do you do it was in my timeline!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Bashbee91

      Hey guys new to the process looking forward to this new life. 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Bugg

      Hi everyone! I’m brand new here. I just went through all my pre-op requirements per my insurance company and now everything has been submitted and I’m just waiting for final approval and my surgery date. I’ve been doing research, watching YouTube videos, TikTok’s, ect.. trying to prepare my mind and what to expect so I’ll be ready for the surgery. I was so sure and so set and so ready and excited. However, now that I’ve done everything & it’s almost here, I am sooooooo scared! I know why I want it bc I’ve tried everything and I just don’t feel like I can lose weight by myself. I’m tired of being overweight my entire life. I’m miserable, but I keep psyching myself out afraid of GERD bc I know how that can be and I don’t want to have to get a bypass after already gaining the courage to even get VSG. I’m scared of complications like I’mgoing to regret doing it and be depressed that I didn’t just be more disciplined and try again to lose the weight on my own even sitting here typing this knowing in my mind i just can’t and don’t possess the discipline. I’m also afraid I won’t be able to handle the restrictions of the sleeve. What do I eat? I don’t know how to eat healthy really and don’t enjoy healthy food. I don’t know how to do this! I feel so defeated!Someone tell me they felt anything similar to this or am I not ready? I thought I was. I am so tired of being sick and tired and so tired of myself and so tired of being stuck and stuck in this body and somebody different on the outside from what I feel inside. I just want to ball up and cry.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • buildabetteranna

      over 20 lbs down since4 the pre surgery diet and surgery on the 14th
      · 1 reply
      1. Selina333

        Yay!! Congrats. I know how good that feels. 🤩

    • Jenopolis

      Had a sleeve in 2017, lost over 100 pounds. Had a DS surgery this year (2025) for more sustainable weight loss. 🤞
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • buildabetteranna

      The 14th was my day. I am home and recovery is going pretty smooth. They even let me walk out of the hospital. Picture of me in recovery curtesy of my boyfriend lol. 

      · 3 replies
      1. DaisyChainOz

        Glad it went well!! Wishing you a speedy recovery and wonderful success!! 🤗

      2. buildabetteranna

        Thank you ❤️

      3. Selina333

        Neat you have a pic of this day! I was sooo happy to get my surgery. It was well worth it! And I'm not even near my goal. I had surgery Dec. 2!

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×