Fabiana87 18 Posted October 20, 2015 Hey guys so im sched for VSG 10/22. For some odd reason today after having intercorse with my husband i was crying crying crying. All i could think about was if something were to happen to me on thurs. I felt very odd and having second thoughts. Idk what to do! Someone helpe please. He just laughed about it and made it into a joke but i really was so emotional it felt like the last time i was going to be with him. Plz no one judge me. Thanks. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Babbs 14,681 Posted October 20, 2015 Why would we judge you? It's very, very normal to be scared to death before surgery. Especially a life altering surgery like this! We all felt scared, anxious, excited, sad, happy.....you name it! The good thing is that this is a very safe surgery with a very low complication rate. Odds are you're going to be just fine. Be honest, you're just upset you'll have to wait a few more weeks to have sexy time with hubby again, aren't you?? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dede0314 356 Posted October 20, 2015 I'm also scheduled for the 22nd and I'm very nervous too... I'm pretty sure it's normal. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Newlife@55 31 Posted October 20, 2015 Those feelings are very normal! I had tears streaming down my cheeks as they rolled me into the operating room. Next thing I knew I was awake in recovery. 7 1/2 months and 105 pounds later......NO REGRETS! I have always appreciated my life and didn't realize I could be happier, but I am! Your feelings are normal and justified.....but please don't let it keep you from a life due to you!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Fabiana87 18 Posted October 20, 2015 Thank you to all of you!! Never thought I would get so much response. I am very greatful for this site and for the people who have expressed there words to me. Bless all of you guys! @@Babbs @@dede0314 @@Newlife@55 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bellabloom 2,467 Posted October 20, 2015 Don't feel bad. That's normal. Some part of you is breaking up with the physical self you've grown used to. Some of us gain weight as a shield around ourselves. I know I did. It's natural to be afraid of losing that sheild, and also facing a huge life change. Maybe having sex made you feel afraid that you may not be the same, things will never be the same. Some part of you will be removed. But that's not the case. You will still be you but healthier, more physically capable and more alive than ever. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aball 11 Posted October 20, 2015 I felt the same way, thats all i thought about, what if i dont make it. I even made burial plans with my mom. Its very normal but you will be fine, your surgeon probably does 1000`s of these surgeries. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeatlast1 0 Posted October 20, 2015 Hi, I know how you feel. I'm scheduled for nov 4th and yesterday I went thru fear and anxiety just from realizing that tomorrow I start my preoperative diet, and I felt like I was getting cold feet. It passed and I'm good, but from everything I've read, what we're experiencing is very very normal. I have faith that we'll both be fine......this is a very serious move and it shouldn't be taken lightly, and you're not! Good for you, but know that you'll be fine!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Essence46 493 Posted October 20, 2015 Very normal so don't feel bad. Think of it has saving your life. Think about all of the positive things that can come from it. If you are a praying person, then pray about it and let it go. Please keep us updated. Wishing you the best. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Fabiana87 18 Posted October 20, 2015 Thanks guys for ur awesome support!!! I will deff keep in touch. @@freeatlast1 @@aball @@Essence46 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MzStockton 182 Posted October 20, 2015 Like everyone has posted its normal. You just pray about it and leave all your worries & fears in god's hands he will take away your fear away, good luck! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites