Bummed and angry

[4MRB4PHOTO 3,900]

You can still go out and have fun. You can eat the same foods as you did before, just less frequently for certain ones and for all, in smaller portions.

Any day you are on the green side of the grass is going to be a lot more fun than the other choice.

You can't order any "super-size" meals on the dirt side.

Look forward to all you will be able to do, the endless NSVs that will happen and your new happier, healthier and longer life you will have post bariatric surgery.

[gowalking 10,790]

I introduced my boyfriend to fresh veggies dipped in hummus rather than ranch dip or creamy italian...or the classic onion and sour cream with chips or pretzels. He's good with the new option and that one change alone saves tons of calories..and is healthier to boot.

[Linaka 92]

@@LipstickLady I'm gonna print this out and put it in my folder to read when I'm feeling discouraged. Great words of wisdom! xxoo

[OKCPirate 5,323]

I introduced my boyfriend to fresh veggies dipped in hummus rather than ranch dip or creamy italian...or the classic onion and sour cream with chips or pretzels. He's good with the new option and that one change alone saves tons of calories..and is healthier to boot.

Tastes better too once you get used to not eating processed stuff

[Ashlegal 525]

My mamaw would make homemade peach, butter pecan and the richest vanilla to ever touch my lips. We as kids would take turns cranking the beat up old ice cream churner, rock salt would be scattered everywhere, little blisters would start to creep up on our fingers and yet we were slaves to the sugar, cream and fruit mixture.

I wasn't raised in the South but I was raised by Southerners. Everything was made with artery clogging love. Even the pot of hamhock and Beans simmering on the stove for hours was meant to shorten your life span.

Home made ice cream. I don't know if this is a Southern thing or not....but it seams that way. Somehow my dear Grandfather could take something wholesome like peaches or blueberries......and turn them into a semi-frozen treat that was loaded with sugar and fat. It was so good that my cousins and I would sit there an drool while we spelled him cranking the handle on the ice cream maker. Drooling like the little addicts we were.

[newmebithebypass 713]

My dad was born in Maryland but raised in Ohio and he cooks like it. Fried chicken lots of sweet tea and biscuits with every meal

[FocusOnMeNow 599]

@@LipstickLady Well said. I feel so free to live my life and truly have fun. My stomach does not rule me anymore. Now I rule my life. And I'm loving it:-)

[heynowkc 329]

@@Dub That might be the greatest message board post I've ever read.

[The Candidate 3,215]

It's definitely common to feel that way before surgery, when everything revolves around what you're giving up.

But after surgery it's a whole new world. I'm only 12 weeks out but I seem to find something daily that makes what I gave up seem like nothing in comparison.

Just to no longer feel that pull of gravity anchoring me to the ground, or my bed is life changing. I feel light, in body and spirit and it's so liberating. I no longer feel like the literal "elephant" in the room anymore. I look for ways to walk more, exercise, expand my horizons. And I haven't even reached goal yet.

It just gets better and better. No regrets. None. Would do it over again in a second.

[Dub 9,922]

@@Dub That might be the greatest message board post I've ever read.

Thanks!

I tell ya......food is tremendous part of our culture, our family history and even a source of braggin rights: Uncle Gene's BBQ Sauce, Grandma Clyde's Carrot Cake.....etc.

I can think back to a lot of big family moments and tell you what was being served.

It took me a while, but I now see how I can still be a part of all the fun times: family gatherings, going out with friends, tailgating at ball games, etc. Just because I"m focused on losing weight and getting healthy I"m not being limited.

It's the opposite, in fact, the healthier I become the more fun stuff I can do.

The OP sort of scared me in that it appeared she was also thinking along those lines....struggling needlessly. She'll be able to better do all her many roles and activities with her new body.

[gowalking 10,790]

@@Dub That might be the greatest message board post I've ever read.

Thanks!

I tell ya......food is tremendous part of our culture, our family history and even a source of braggin rights: Uncle Gene's BBQ Sauce, Grandma Clyde's Carrot Cake.....etc.

I can think back to a lot of big family moments and tell you what was being served.

It took me a while, but I now see how I can still be a part of all the fun times: family gatherings, going out with friends, tailgating at ball games, etc. Just because I"m focused on losing weight and getting healthy I"m not being limited.

It's the opposite, in fact, the healthier I become the more fun stuff I can do.

The OP sort of scared me in that it appeared she was also thinking along those lines....struggling needlessly. She'll be able to better do all her many roles and activities with her new body.

My son and his family moved to Columbia more than ten years ago. I visit often from NYC and also learned about sweet tea and buffets after church. We went to a place a couple of years back that served pig several different ways and of course it was all delish.

But even in The South, one can be healthy. My son was probably around 350 lbs. when they moved down and he lost at least 100 lbs. shortly after the move. He's still about the same size even after all these years. I'm incredibly proud of him.

[Chrystee 838]

These are all normal thoughts. I was also REALLY angry and depressed right before surgery (about 1-2 months before) I was also anxious.. as soon as I had surgery, was released and felt normal again, I was good to go.