Regrets and worried for the future

[CJ Porter 93]

I wanted to specifically address your question about going out. Yes, you will be able to go out. I am almost 8 weeks out from surgery and have eaten out with family and friends. Everyone knows about my surgery and everyone wants to be supportive. So they always check with me about what restaurants I can do (most of them, but I am currently skipping Italian) and what they can do to help. My husband orders and I take a little bit of what he's gotten and maybe a side. I can only eat 2-3 ounces at a time, so, it's working out. My friends also have volunteered to share when my hubby isn't around and my sister is thrilled because she's eating less when we go out. I eat slowly so I'm not sitting there staring at everyone else eating after I'm done. It's working and it is possible so take a deep breath - you're going to be okay!

CJ

[Champ715 207]

@@JohnnysGirl0424 I'm three weeks out now and already feeling much better. I am struggling with feelings of fake head hunger while I'm at work but it's just because I am so very bored. I think I have exhausted my family as well. The last three weeks have been all about me and how I feel, what I can eat, how I can eat, when I need to eat, etc. My poor fiance is probably ready to jump ship LOL

I'm ready to be on the other side of this too!

[velvetelvis 5]

I felt the same way too. What have I done?! I wanted to eat everything I loved but couldn't even taste a bite. Everything smelled delicious. Its like you were forced to break up with your best friend and you never got to say goodbye!

But all of the sudden, a month later you gulp down Water and realize it wasn't a tiny sip..and nothing hurts! You go to tie your shoes and you can reach! You realize you're no longer sore anywhere. Fast food smells awful. Your feet/knees aren't screaming sore. Your old jeans fit. Your bras are loose. I could go on all night.....

As a professional cook who has unlimited access to food ALL day, there are few people who have temptation like I do. But I've never been happier or more in control. 100% sure you will be so happy with your decision xoxoxo

[anna9/15 93]

Thanks for starting the post. I knew it would happen to me too and I kept telling myself not to feel regret. Had surgery on October 15 and within days I was thinking I should've just worked out or counted calories. I've lost 10 lbs and feel like it's not enough. The torture we put ourselves through is hell, we know it's temporary and we are told it will pass but when you're in it, it feels unbearable. I've been watching you tube videos, reading stories, joining groups like these to keep myself motivated. I think I have exhausted my family with my fears and constant discussions of what's to come. I cannot wait to be the one to tell someone like me. "It gets better"

I feel the same way

[Daisee68 2,493]

Well said @velvetelvis. I was just thinking how shocked I was it didn't hurt to take that second gulp that I probably shouldn't have done and how easily I can get up off the floor now (at least compared to 85 pounds ago). It is truly amazing.

[heather5565 959]

It totally gets better!! I am on cloud 9! I can do things I haven't done since I was a teenager! I can walk so fast my hair blows back! I can sprint through my office if I'm "running" late to a meeting...and not shake the building! I can cross my legs...I can fit nicely in the bathtub. I have been flirted with!! (that is new for me! Been married 30 years!) I can cross my arms, reach that one spot on my back that itches, that I could never reach before! I have been excited about this surgery since before I had it. I did so much research, and u-tube watching I could've almost performed the surgery myself! I had zero regret. I am sorry you feel regret. Trust those of us who have been there....it sooooo gets better! All the best to you!

Best response!!! You got me all pumped up and excited too!! ????????????

[jobillandjosh 53]

I am 3 weeks out on Tuesday. I feel GREAT! Trust me, it gets better. It's still early for you and the first week is the hardest with coming off of surgery drugs, getting your routine down, incision pains, sleeping pains. It really does get better. Take a deep breath, put one foot in front of the other and take it one day at a time. Don't look at forever. Just look at today. Get up tomorrow, just look at tomorrow. If you try to tackle it all at once, it'll be too overwhelming.