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Well I gave it to God and although there was no surgery dates in November I got one??? Scheduled for November 30 th

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Woohoo! Congrats!! ????

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Thank you very much. I am blessed that they got me in this year.

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Congratulations!

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Well I gave it to God and although there was no surgery dates in November I got one??? Scheduled for November 30 th

Great news!

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Right now I am going through some stuff that I am not dealing well with. I am contimplating canceling surgery due to it. 5 years ago I left my family and moved 1500 miles away to marry the man I was so in love with. From the 1st day to now 5 years later I have not been accepted into this family. Day 1 should have been my clue when I was told by his mother that I was here to kill his daughter. Since then I have been screamed and cussed at, Hit, told my marriage was going to be tore apart by them. They even tell my husband lies. No matter what they have to do in order to make my life misserable and try to cause problems in my household. I have tried to deal with things for 5 years and accept his family because he is my husband and this is his family. But, its hard when its all pretend until they are caught doing something with ill intent. Then it is drama drama drama. I love my husband but have contimplated just leaving him because of his family. Why? Because it is never going to end. Things were going well for a couple months. Friday when I was so excited about having everything completed for my surgery and the doctor is sending my paperwork to insurance next tuesday i get my teeth kicked in again. Lies to my husband again.. And, then I was told skinny was not going to make me pretty. you have to be pretty fat. Sorry that she is fat and refuses to do anything about her weight. I am not doing this to be pretty or ugly. I am doing this for my health. I even had to hear how a coworker of hers is like a ***** now that she lost weight. Now she is telling family diff things.. Of course I am not speaking to the family about it. But, with all this turmoil and my husband being my only support im scared to get the surgery. And, have been thinking very hard the last 2 days about cancelling it. Any thoughts?? My thoughts are I should have never started this journey without a good support system.. :(

. I think you should be strong and move forward with the surgery. Do it for you!!! We are all on here for support. We are all by your side to help you get through... I think you should ignore them.... They are just jealous.... Don't give them a reaction.... That is what they want.... Keep your head up.... ????

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@@Jangy03253 --

I'm completely confused on who is competing with you for your husband. His mother? His daughter? Both? In any case it's unhealthy, but there are underlying reasons. May I ask your, your husband's and his daughter's ages? Does the daughter live with you? Is her mother living?

Miss Mac asked why your husband isn't speaking up for you. There's something else he isn't doing: Standing up for the life he wants.

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His daughter is 21 and no she no longer lives with us. She has 3 babies. I see she os trying to grow up some. But what she said nit to ling aho that she still didnt want to share him. No thats not healthy yes

her mother is living

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Sorry i didnt Aamwer all. My husbamd is 45 and yea i gueas it would be calling compete and that is not right. Noone ahould compete for anyone. And yea both. I have kust been dealing with me and my surgery and mot worry about them.

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