October List of Surgery's

[doggiedaddy 304]

You guys... Its a bit of a story but I need some support.

I've reached goal weight. I'm happier than ever. My friend and whom I thought was my support system when I needed her... Just recently saw me. Told me I looked anorexic. I'm freaking out. She had her surgery 8 months before I did. Different doctor and all. She hasn't reached her goal weight and has a lot of dumping due to bad eating habits. Why am I so concerned about what she says when I'm succeeding and she even said she was jealous... Am I wrong?

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Did you guys have a different surgery from each other? Or both RNY?

[doggiedaddy 304]

I have people telling me all the time now when I tell them I have 20 more lbs to go, oh no you will look too thin! I don't think at 5'5" 150 (in 20 less lbs. 170 now) I will be too thin. Maybe they are trying to compliment me & saying I look great now but it does make you wonder. I'm not trying to be 125 like was in high school, or 135 at 40. I'm 60 now & don't mind keeping a little weight on. So 150-155 I think I will be fine.

I agree... I've had some of that, as well. I have to admit that I am still more than happy to not be at my old lowest weights... not sure it is just me used to being bigger so I am happy with anything less now or if it is because I am healthy and active than I have been in years so not worried about being "thin"... I'm gonna go with the second reason

[doggiedaddy 304]

I think we just need to develop thicker skin and better "one liners". I live in one part of the country from November to April and I just got back "home". I have lots of friends who are seeing me for the first time down 95 lbs. They say the dumbest things:

1. One couple has now told me 5 times EACH that they don't recognize me (they need new material).

2. A lot of marginal acquaintances come up to me WHILE I'M EATING in a restaurant and look at my plate and say "I want to see what you're eating" or "is that on your diet?"

3. My wife doesn't want me to lose another pound.

4. And of course everyone says "you must feel much better".

I've just started telling them that I lost most of my weight in 2015 and while it's new news to them, it's old news to me. Hopefully they'll leave me alone.

Of course, there are dozens of good friends who are just happy for me. I love them dearly!

I love this, @@Cape Crooner!

[doggiedaddy 304]

I find I've been sabotaging myself a bit since all of the 'compliments' started. Why do I do this? I'm very close to goal. I've lost a lot quickly. Highest weight 178. I was 158 when I started Optifast and 136 at surgery I think. And I'm now 152.

The thing is I'm not at my goal and I've been eating carbs and Cookies and crap. I'm not gaining weight but I'm slowing my losing down and I'm feeling depressed about my eating.

I'm angry with myself. In this moment I'm saying I'm done with it and back on track. I just wish I could understand why I do this. I've never really been below 150 and it's like I deliberately make myself fail.

I don't know if anyone relates. Is this common for the 7-8 month mark? I seem to be able to eat more and the head hunger and cravings have returned.

Sorry my highest weight should read 278 and 236 at surgery.

Yes... I am this way lately, too... and from what I have been reading, it is very common AND I've read we snap out of it, so don't worry

[anewme2015 345]

One day down and low carbs. Amazingly I already feel a bit better. I agree with the posters who say it's better to be simple

Carb-free. Here's to tomorrow being another good day. It's a one day at a time thing for sure. I just want to break into the 140s!

[steph_anie 49]

You guys... Its a bit of a story but I need some support.

I've reached goal weight. I'm happier than ever. My friend and whom I thought was my support system when I needed her... Just recently saw me. Told me I looked anorexic. I'm freaking out. She had her surgery 8 months before I did. Different doctor and all. She hasn't reached her goal weight and has a lot of dumping due to bad eating habits. Why am I so concerned about what she says when I'm succeeding and she even said she was jealous... Am I wrong?

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Did you guys have a different surgery from each other? Or both RNY?

Both sleeved. Just 8 months apart.

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[60&goin4it 931]

Update : I'm at 165 now at 8 months, well I guess now its closer to nine July 8th. 15 lb. more to go to reach my 150 goal which is where I want to be! I'm not exercising like I should. I did purchase & wearing 10 lb. ankle weights I purchased from Walmart online (5 lb. each leg) that I put on most days to walk around the house or do some leg lifts. Need to walk to get the last 15 off. I eat just about everything, I do stay away from sugar. I still only eat around a cup to cup &1/2 of food at a time. Still very glad I did it. Scares are almost gone. My arms look horrible & inner thighs. Feel great with more energy than ever!! Hope everyone is doing well!! Have a wonderful 4th of July!!!! Terri

[anewme2015 345]

So great to hear from you! I hope the rest of the group chimes in too.

My update is mixed. My highest weight was 278 and I was 257 pre-OP Optifast and 236 I think at surgery. I'm now 146 and still losing but SLOWLY. My eating hasn't been great lately and I'm starting Atkins tomorrow. Carbs send me into a spiral of poor eating choices and cravings. My appetite returned and it's thrown me for a loop. I feel hungry and I can eat! Scary! Lol

I exercise 3-4x a week and have really started to enjoy combat classes and weight lifting.

I have this vision of myself strong and centred and fit. That's more important than a number on a scale although it bothers me that at my height I'm still 'overweight'.

Anyway keep posting! And I hope others will too!

[jjod 197]

I've hit my goal of 100 lbs and being under 25 BMI. Woohoo! Thank goodness for gastric sleeve, MyFitnessPal and low carb eating.

It was fun changing the settings to maintenance mode.

Before: calories 800, carbs 40, fat 30, Protein 80.

Now: calories 1200, carbs 80, fat 60, protein 90.

So much easier. The extra carbs are supposed to come from veggies.

I'll never feel like "I've got this". I'm addicted to simple carbs and will have to avoid or my hunger will return. Also I have to continue logging my food so that I don't mindlessly eat.

How are or will you all handle your maintenance???

[60&goin4it 931]

@@anewme2015 Good Job! You are doing great! I love that your doing the combat classes & weight lifting & love it! I think that is the key, to find something in fitness that you love!!! The adkins diet I think is one of the best ones out there for us! My husband does this & is pretty close to how I eat so it works. The hard part is when we have company to stay on our regular routine. They bring chips etc. & I think I have to serve my tried & true recipes that are full of carbs etc. We live at the lake so have lots of company during the summer. Carbs are my enemy. As I right this I have a Breakfast casserole ready to go full of carbs for our company & I know I will have a little. I hope to see more updates too! It is encouraging for me!! Keep up the good work!

[60&goin4it 931]

@@jjod Congratulations on meeting your goal!!! You are awesome!! what a journey!!! Love the before & after picture, you look great!!! Logging the food is something I probably should do, I have been just counting Protein while I'm still loosing, (slowly but still getting there!) I think when I reach maint. I will do as your doing! Great idea!! I had the gastric bypass & so glad I had it! both surgeries I believe are life savors!

[SleeveandRNYchica 1,155]

Hi everyone! Glad to see you all are progressing well. I am still losing very slow. April I tracked 3.4lbs loss, same for June. I have 32lbs to get to my personal goal. I thought I would be further along, but honestly it doesn't disappoint me any more. I no longer have back and knee pain. My clothes are too big and I can walk with my kids and go to the pool without so much shame. I am getting there and will get to my personal goal. Drs goal has me losing and additional 20lbs but I don't even worry about that! I make good choices 85 percent of the time.

[miiasan 370]

Hi all! Just an update. My weight loss has slowed down dramatically - in fact, I went a little over 4 months not losing anything. Then I dropped another 10 lbs. when my NUT had me increase my calories from 800 to 1200 per day.

At my last visit my surgeon told me he didn't want me to go under 159 lbs. He said 'for a woman my age (lol) and height that 159 was perfect. Well, I told him I would like to get to a healthy BMI which is 155 - even though secretly I still want to get down to 150. We will see how it all turns out.

I am between a size 12 and 14 now and am happy as a clam! I just bought another swim suit and am enjoying the choices I have in clothing. I am still losing fat and don't have too much loose skin on my arms or legs yet. I just had my annual mammogram. Let me tell you - the difference between last year and this year was pretty phenomenal. Seems like two low hanging flat pancakes hurt a lot less than what I had last year!

As I said before, my NUT put me at 1200 per day and wants me to go to 1600 per day when I reach goal. 1200 calories is still an awful lot it seems and I can hardly imagine getting up to 1600. I still eat 5 times a day and am really enjoying the large amounts of fruits and veggies available in the summer (even if I can only eat a few bites).

I eat around 70 grams of Protein every day but still struggle with getting enough fluids in. Most days I get in around 55 or so ounces and I really have to push to get that!

I still am not exercising like I was able to before my surgery. I walk every day and do Water aerobics 3-4 times a week. I don't have a whole lot of energy, though so I nap on days I can. A couple of months ago I started having night sweats. On the nights I have them I wake up several times fully drenched in sweat. I immediately thought of low blood sugar - but tested and it is always okay. My doctor ran lots of blood tests and they all came out fine. She did a chest x-ray and it was clear. I don't think it could be menopause since I went through that over 8 years ago when I had a hysterectomy. My doctor is theorizing that my body could be releasing hormones that were locked up in the fat. Hmmm - sounds plausible - anyone ever heard of this? Anyway, I follow up with her in a couple of months.

Anyway, am enjoying reading how other folks are doing and hope that more folks will check in. We have all been on quite a journey; our challenge in the next part of our lives will be maintaining what we fought so hard to obtain. My best wishes and blessings to all of you.

[jjod 197]

I can relate to boobs that are flat pancakes. In fact when I lie down, I only feel ribs. But I love having ribs and hip bones too.

My goal was to be the highest healthy BMI which is 25. For me that was 140 which is where I hope to stay. My 800 cal/day has been raised to 1200 now that I'm on maintenance. It does seem like a lot and I'm trying to stay calm and not go nuts.

I learned how to log my food from my support group. I would strongly recommend using MyFitnessPal otherwise you won't know why you're losing or gaining.

I don't have a prayer of maintaining without it.

[chavonjb 24]

I am 12 pounds from Goal weight, I can't remember the last time. I was this size.